sexual orgasm vs masturbation orgasm

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Registered: 05-11-2004
sexual orgasm vs masturbation orgasm
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Tue, 05-11-2004 - 11:37am
Hi there,

My boyfriend loves sex, just like me. We are very active sexualy, but most of the times he doesn't come when he's penetrating me. I (sometimes himself) masturbate him until orgasm, and I'm starting to be upset by this, because I would like him to cum inside of me, not to my hand.

I really don't know what to think about this, if it's psychological, or if I'm over lubricated and the friction in my vagina isn't enough for him to cum.

I love him, and love to have sex with him in every way, but I'm starting to get a little bit worried...

Am I crazy?

Thanks girls!

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Registered: 01-11-2004
Sat, 05-15-2004 - 9:07pm
IMO, your man has to retrain his sexual response. He has learned to ejaculate (cum) through masturbation. To RETRAIN HIM, you need put water-based lubrication on your hands; you gently give him manual sex. The idea is to get his penis used to the warm & wet atmosphere of the vagina. DON'T bring him to ejaculation; you will build his excitement & need to ejaculate. After a few times of building desire & not ejaculating, you have sexual intercourse. Please keep us posted, mac

 

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Wed, 05-19-2004 - 6:44am
Not saying that this may be his problem but this is what my husband what went thru when he and I first started having sex. Before he and I started dating we were friends for a couple of years and I know he used to be a big player. For at least a couple of months he couldn't cum inside me. The only way was for me to do it by hand or orally. It didn't bother me at first but I started to get worried that it was me. He went to his Dr. and asked him about it and his Dr. said as long as he could cum in other ways then there wasn't anything wrong. He said that guys sometimes can get mental blocks and have a hard time cumming. He had never been with a woman that he truly loved and cared about. After he finally got over all that he was fine. Hope this helps you out. Good Luck to getting him to cum inside you. And don't stress that it's you cause I doubt that it is.
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Registered: 05-11-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 9:08am
First of all, thanks for your replies...

Second... yesterday we were at the beach (no one around of course! ;-)) and we had sex, and guess what? He came inside!!! :-) It was nice... and I think we are on the wright path, don't you think?

THANKS!!!

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:35am
Kewl!! I'm glad to hear that he cam inside you. I know that was a big releif for you. Remember to always keep up the communication between you both. That's the biggest key in a relationship. Good Luck to both of you.