No Sex Drive, No Orgasms

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Registered: 05-26-2004
No Sex Drive, No Orgasms
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:35am
I'm 20 years old and I have NEVER orgasmed in my life. On top of that I don't seem to have any sex drive. I have had 4 partners, each of which I've been in long term relationships with, and none of them have successfully given me an orgasm. I feel like I'm missing out on a lot because this is something I want to be able to experience and share with the man I love. My current boyfriend is very understanding, but I'm very unhappy about not being able to enjoy sex. I want to know what it feels like to WANT sex and to ENJOY sex.

Just a few months ago I went to my doctor to see if there was something physically wrong with me. She checked me out and took a blood test to check my hormone levels. Everything checked out normal and I'm completely stumped on why I have no sex drive and why I'm unable to climax. I've read every discussion board on low sex drive, yet I haven't found any about someone who has never had one! I also haven't found anything useful at all about acheiving orgasms. Has anyone else ever had this problem? How did you fix it?! Somebody please help me, I don't want to spend the rest of my life like this!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 12:35pm

Hi hon,


Good for you getting the checkup - at least now you have some peace of mind about that aspect.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2004
Mon, 05-31-2004 - 6:17pm
hey,

Did you try porn? Maybe that would help excite you a bit. I think that exploring your body would definitely help. Good luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-26-2004
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 6:52pm
Thank you so much for your tips. I think I'll look into it, you've given me lots of useful information! I've been reading up on everything you've told me.

One more question I had and maybe you can help me with this, I don't understand why I don't have a sex drive. All my friends tell me how horny they get yet I've never really felt horny!! Is that weird?!

Thanks again!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 2:32am

Hiya hon,


I'm no 'sexpert' so all of this is just observation....but it seems to me that several different factors play into our sex drives and desires: biology for one, hormones and overall health definitely play a role, energy levels from day to day, etc.

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