No Sex Drive, No Orgasms
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No Sex Drive, No Orgasms
| Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:35am |
I'm 20 years old and I have NEVER orgasmed in my life. On top of that I don't seem to have any sex drive. I have had 4 partners, each of which I've been in long term relationships with, and none of them have successfully given me an orgasm. I feel like I'm missing out on a lot because this is something I want to be able to experience and share with the man I love. My current boyfriend is very understanding, but I'm very unhappy about not being able to enjoy sex. I want to know what it feels like to WANT sex and to ENJOY sex.
Just a few months ago I went to my doctor to see if there was something physically wrong with me. She checked me out and took a blood test to check my hormone levels. Everything checked out normal and I'm completely stumped on why I have no sex drive and why I'm unable to climax. I've read every discussion board on low sex drive, yet I haven't found any about someone who has never had one! I also haven't found anything useful at all about acheiving orgasms. Has anyone else ever had this problem? How did you fix it?! Somebody please help me, I don't want to spend the rest of my life like this!

Hi hon,
Good for you getting the checkup - at least now you have some peace of mind about that aspect.
Did you try porn? Maybe that would help excite you a bit. I think that exploring your body would definitely help. Good luck!
One more question I had and maybe you can help me with this, I don't understand why I don't have a sex drive. All my friends tell me how horny they get yet I've never really felt horny!! Is that weird?!
Thanks again!!
Hiya hon,
I'm no 'sexpert' so all of this is just observation....but it seems to me that several different factors play into our sex drives and desires: biology for one, hormones and overall health definitely play a role, energy levels from day to day, etc.