have i done the 'responsible' thing
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have i done the 'responsible' thing
| Sun, 06-13-2004 - 2:35am |
Ive been seeing this guy for a while. We agreed we didnt want a committed relationship but he just wanted to be casual. Basically casual sex and fun. We are very good friends and talk about everything. Hes very honest and open about things and i really feel i can trust him. He knows how many partners ive been with and vice versa. He said to me the other day 'do you want me to continue using condoms' i said 'if you are sleeping with other people thats fine but you HAVE to use a condom with me but if i am the only person that you are sleeping with and you know for a fact you are clean then dont' He didnt. Do you think that was wise? obviously its a little a late but I feel it was the right thing to do and he is a very responsible, trustworthy guy. So what are your thoughts?

Let's pretend that he gets tested regularly or that he's been tested recently. That will rule out gonorrhea and chlamydia, possibly HIV and syphilis, depending on the tests ordered. But it's highly unllikely that he was tested for herpes and impossible that he was tested for HPV.
Herpes and HPV are two of the three most common STD's. Both of them are incurable. Most people who carry them do not know they're infected. So you can trust him till the cows come home, he could even pass a lie detector test and still leave you with an STD.
The only person who can be responsible for your sexual health is you. When it comes to something like this, I'd rather be safe than sorry.