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Whats wrong with me?
| Sat, 07-24-2004 - 9:58am |
Wasn't even sure where to post this -
I have a boyfriend with whom I'm faling in love with. I'm SO attracted to him.
However, my problem is this;
I can't orgasm with him. I understand that during sex, it's not uncommon not to be able to, but I can't when he goes down or through manual stimulation....but I can when I masturbate.
I don't know if it's because I'm too nervous, I'm not relaxed enough, he's doing it the wrong way (it feels good) or what!
When he does it, it ends up taking so long I end up just faking the O, because I think he gets bored.
He doesn't know I have this problem, and I'm not sure I feel comfortable hurting his feelings by telling him!
does anyone else have this problem?
I'm not a very adventurous person sexually in bed, somewhat reserved, so I don't know how comfortable I"d feel incorporating any other "devices" to help out.
I have a boyfriend with whom I'm faling in love with. I'm SO attracted to him.
However, my problem is this;
I can't orgasm with him. I understand that during sex, it's not uncommon not to be able to, but I can't when he goes down or through manual stimulation....but I can when I masturbate.
I don't know if it's because I'm too nervous, I'm not relaxed enough, he's doing it the wrong way (it feels good) or what!
When he does it, it ends up taking so long I end up just faking the O, because I think he gets bored.
He doesn't know I have this problem, and I'm not sure I feel comfortable hurting his feelings by telling him!
does anyone else have this problem?
I'm not a very adventurous person sexually in bed, somewhat reserved, so I don't know how comfortable I"d feel incorporating any other "devices" to help out.

So - I'm 30 - he's 37..I've had a serious boyfriend(s) in the past and didn't really have this problem....
This guy is the one I'd most NOT want to have this problem with!
that sounds exactly like me. Although my boyfriend does know and it drives him nuts. But let me start by saying, I'm 20, he's 22 and he is the only person I have ever been with. I love him tons and always want to jump him but like you, can't seem to orgasm. manual and oral stimulation feel good but i tend to just want to jump to sex because i dont want him to feel bad about nothing happening. I dont know if Im too sensitive to his touch sometimes, because there is one spot that is so sensitive that it almost hurts but yet feels good. I dunno Im sure this is TMI but i also was wondering if anyone had any suggestions. My bf is starting to beat himself up about it now because he cant "pleasure me" as he puts it and I really want to experience orgasms with him.
Gianna, let me know if anything seems to work
Sat. we were up most of the night just doing it. I mean, I'm talking just about everything. AND it was really wonderful! I enjoyed myself immensely, but guess what. No orgasm.
He did oral, manual, we even did many other positions, but still none for me.
I don't know what's wrong!
I think it's nerves. Is it just me, or do other women here feel a tad bit uncomfortable when a guy goes down there.
This is my thought process: is that they don't necessarily like it down there, but they feel they have to - and if it's taking too long, they begin to gross out and the result is me faking it.
I probably have this in my head because my ex never liked doing oral. I dont think it's because it was gross (if I had to do it though, I would find it kind of gross) but he said that it itched...meaning the hair.
So - this new guy has expressed to me that I should go completely bare down there. And I did for him (oh the maintenance!) and funny thing is, he loves it, or at least I think he does....but I feel more NAKED than before and thus perhaps even more uncomfortable.
How can I get passed this? Is this why I can't orgasm with him?
I wish I were one of those lucky women who can strictly through intercourse.
gianna
And I hear you about feeling NAKED!!! But it's so much more comfortable when you are shaved I think and less messy!!