i want sex all the time, help?

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Registered: 07-25-2004
i want sex all the time, help?
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Sun, 07-25-2004 - 2:59pm
I want more sex than my man does. I dont understand why i am the one who wants it more? we dont even do it like we use too. its now ever 1 or 2 months wait...he always says he is tired ...help me please is there something wrong with me?
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sun, 07-25-2004 - 4:53pm
Hi desimaray, welcome!

I don't think the problem is with you, it's your boyfriend’s. If you have already talked to him about it and he is ‘too tired’ then you should try and have him see his doctor and get checked out to see if there is a physical cause for his low libido. If his doctor can find nothing wrong, then perhaps counseling might help. An article on the subject is: http://www.ivillagehealth.com/experts/emotional/qas/0,,234283_124367,00.html Let us know how you're doing, ok?

Good luck,

      Jill

    

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Registered: 07-26-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 11:40pm
hey your pretty lucky for having a drive like that i think. it can also depend on your age too i think. Im 20 and i have zero sex drive! my boyfriend, 32,of 2 years, threatens he will cheat on me if something dosent spark!!
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Registered: 05-18-2004
Wed, 07-28-2004 - 10:42am

You need to have a serious talk with him and let him know how this is effecting you. I'd be getting pretty insecure at this point! I went down that road with my ex fiance... many things were a factor to his low sex drive... but in your case its only happening once a month or more? that is kinda serious so I'd look at possibilities like:


1) what is his workload like? how many hours /week does he work?


2) is he a heavy drinker? does he do any drugs?


3) has he recently had any problems with family, freinds or co-workers??


4) does he have a significant financial burden?


5) is he taking on too many tasks, like school, work, you and familiy?


6) Could he be depressed? have you two had more fights than usual?


7) is it possible that he is cheating on you?


8) is it possible that you've had a hard time climaxing in the past and he feels insecure about that?


9) Do you initiate or wait until he initiates? Does he become aroused when you touch him? Possible erectile dysfunction?


As cliche as it may sound - stress REALLY does take a toll on your libido. It's like a silent fog that creeps into the libido hiding it from all stimulations. No one can explain it. It really is just true!



Love Sara

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Registered: 07-25-2004
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 12:00am
I understand what you mean that he will cheat on you if theres no spark...because 3years ago i did cheated because i wasnt getting enough...and believe me i'll never do it again the pain i felt that night from doing what i did ...i felt sick to my stomach and i felt really bad about what i did but thats when i realized that i really do love him...well if this guy cares for you at all he'll just hold on ...Cause it took me too realize it when i already did something and i hurt him big time but i had to lie about it...the pain was to much and i couldnt tell him the truth but now its 2 years later and its wonderful but the sex is not enough...