Pain During Penetration
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| Wed, 07-28-2004 - 6:20pm |
My fiance moved in with me about three months ago. Not surprisingly, we’ve been having sex more frequently since we started living together. (Prior to his moving in, ours was a long-distance relationship.) As a woman with an extremely high sex drive, I’m in no way opposed to this--and neither is he. We both love sex; we both love each other; and we both love sex with each other, so our average of five-times-a-week would appear to be ideal.
Problem is, it’s beginning to take its toll on my body. For the past two or so months, sex has been quite painful for me. Actual intercourse doesn’t hurt at all, but I continually experience a sharp, acute pain during penetration. (That is, once my fiance is all the way inside of me, it’s wonderful. The first few seconds that it takes him to get that way, however, are practically unbearable.)
Prior to my fiance, I’d had sex with only two other people, two times each. I’ve been tested and do not have any STDs, nor do I have any symptoms of vaginal infection. Proper lubrication isn’t the problem, as we always use Astroglide during sex on account of his being rather well-endowed. So why the pain? Are we simply having too much sex? HELP!!

If the pain is only as he begins penetration, you may have the vestiges of a hymen that is restricting your vaginal opening and, once he gets past that you are ok. When he's not around try to reproduce the symptoms using a dildo, and with your fingers feel what is in the specific area where the pain originates and see if you can feel what he's hitting or stretching. If you can't feel anything (or even if you can) it would be a good idea to talk with your doctor and get his or her advice. It's probably something simple that can easily be fixed. Let us know how you're doing, ok?
Good luck,
Jill