Worried

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Registered: 10-23-2003
Worried
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Thu, 07-29-2004 - 8:55am
Hi all,

I was just wondering the first time I had sex, I was a little bit scared & I wasnt that wet either. My boyfriend found it hard to enter me. Is that really abnormal, is there sumthing wrong with me.

If anyone can help me, Id really appreciate it

Thanx
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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: bella2017
Thu, 07-29-2004 - 2:50pm
Hi bella2017, welcome!

Nooo... Hon, you aren't abnormal! It takes time for a woman to become aroused and well lubricated. And when we first become sexually active we are usually very inexperienced with what turns us on and apprehensive as well. So, it's quite understandable that you were dry. If your partner is as inexperienced as you he may think women are as easily aroused as guys are... If so you are going to have to help him be gentle and use lots of foreplay, snuggling, kissing and fingering to prepare you for penetration. An intimate lubricant like Astroglide, will work wonders too and don't be shy about using a lot of it. Be sure you are using an effective method of birth control! Don't even think about withdrawal, that’s like playing Russian Roulette! If you are using condoms be sure the lube you use is a water base one, like Astroglide. Oil based lubes and medicines can drastically shorten the life of latex barriers such as condoms, diaphragms and cervical caps. Thanks for posting. Come back and let us know how you're doing, ok?

Good luck,

      Jill