ejaculation dysfunction

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Registered: 10-24-2004
ejaculation dysfunction
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 5:25pm
my boyfriend has had problems achieving orgasam and ejaculation (none at all since we have been together other than with masturbation by himself). we have figured it's a result of "conditioning" basically he got used to his own hand.

we have a strong healthy sexual relationship, but i want him to be able to feel as good as i do during sex. does anyone kno of somethings that i could do/try that would help him to attchieve ejaculation/orgasam?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Mon, 11-01-2004 - 8:55pm
Hi dekleinekikker, welcome!

I think that can be a tough situation to deal with. Here’s a link to a series of articles on male sexual dysfunction: http://www.ivillage.com/topics/health/0,,234376,00.html There may be something there that might help. Has he been inside you? Do you know if he thinks your grip isn’t as good as his hand? If that’s the case you might try Kegel exercises http://www.ivillage.com/topics/relation/0,,167353,00.html over a period of months to tighten and tone your pelvic muscles. Do you know him well enough to know what fantasies light his fire? If you can get him very aroused with you as the center of the fantasy that might help him get off with penile vaginal IC. Or, perhaps counseling might be needed. Let us know how you’re doing, ok?

Good luck,

      Jill

    

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 11-02-2004 - 11:55am
Something that my dh and I have always enjoyed is reading erotic stories together. Looking online is probably the best chance you have of finding something you're interested in. Sometimes the magazine stories can all start sounding alike after awhile (since I really doubt people actually write stories like that with 20 different words for any body part!). lol

While you're having sex, remind him of some of the parts of the story he found particularly erotic. For some men, stories of a dominant woman are a turn-on and it might just send him over the top if you remind him of parts of the story as you act it out.

Jackie

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Registered: 12-31-2004
Fri, 12-31-2004 - 4:25pm

This is a sure fire way for him to get this entire situation under control once and for all.

He should first STOP masterbating altogether.

Then wait a few days then you all should take plenty of time and have a slow intimate encounter and let yourselves be free. I would venture to say he will have a really good climax.

Masterbation decreases the sensitivity of the make organ and therefore masterbation should be avoaided altogether.

This should keep him feeling AS GOOD as you do during your intimate moments.

I pray you will use this and devote yourselves to a wholesome lifestyle too. I've been married for 12 years AND the sex is GREAT and I keep myself for her AND she keeps herself for me AND we never have unsatisfied sex, ever!