Extra marital sex why

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-02-2004
Extra marital sex why
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 2:09pm
Hi everybody. This is my first time to post. I may not be at the right place and if not please feel free to direct me.
For the most part of my adult life I have always liked men. I am now 56 years old. (But I married when I was 14 years old.)My first marriage I had several affairs. When I was getting my divorce I had sex with 4 or 5 men. Then I married and we have been married for 18 years and I have cheated on him. Two or three men in person and then men online. I just had an affair which didn't last but a couple of months but it turned into a nightmare with the wife assaulting me.
My question is "Why do I feel as though I need more than one man in my life at a time?"
I have been told that I am a very attractive woman. I have a wonderful husband and a nice home with kids and grandchildren. I don't know what I am looking for. Please advise me.
gabbie
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2003
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 3:37pm

Hi ivgabbie, welcome!

I think the reasons for having an affair can be many and often complex. For articles about affairs see: Having an affair: http://www.ivillage.com/topics/relation/0,,166977,00.html?arrivalSA=1&cobrandRef=0&arrival_freqCap=2 At the bottom of that screen there are links to affair subject boards where you can get advice and support from other women. The boards available are:

All Sides of an Affair (A debate board)
My Affair Support
Ending an Affair Support

It would probably be a good idea to post your question on one of the affair support boards to get insight from women who have been in your shoes. I hope you find the answers you want.

Good luck and hugs,

      Jill

    

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2004
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 10:31pm

Gabbie,

How ironic that I should stumble across your query! I have been wondering the exact same thing about myself, except that I am only 20 and have not been married. But I have had an affair with a married man (whom i dated in high school), and more meaningless casual sex with men than I've had of "real" relationships. This bothers me, because I have no idea why I get in these situations, even though I feel I'm mostly happy with my life. Maybe we could advise eachother, even just talk.

Ann