Damage from foreplay?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2003
Damage from foreplay?
1
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 9:25pm
This is really embarassing, but here goes... My boyfriend likes to try to stretch me out down there with his fingers. Last night he got at least part of four of his fingers in there, and then it hurt too much, so he stopped. I'm still pretty sore, and I'm worried that this might be stretching me out permanently or damaging the walls of my vagina or something. Does anyone know if this might be harmful? Thank you for your help.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:20am

Hi il_neige, welcome!

Hon, I'm sorry! Vaginal tissues are very expandable under certain circumstances, child birth for example or to a much lesser extent arousal but they are also very sensitive. Unless your partner is gentle and considerate and you are very relaxed it is likely that you can become painfully bruised, which sounds like what happened. If I were you I'd ask him to be gentle and tell him how you would like to be caressed and you guys need to use plenty or lube! Let him know painful foreplay is a turnoff. If he keeps on trying to force his hand inside you (called fisting) he could easily injure you. If you want to know more about fisting you can type the term into Google and get loads of information. If the swelling doesn't go down in a day or two it would be a good idea to see your doctor. Let us know how you're doing, ok?

Good luck,

      Jill