help please

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Registered: 05-05-2003
help please
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Thu, 12-16-2004 - 4:14pm
I am not a sexually active person, but I am not a virgin anymore. My mom does not know this and this Christmas she wants to take me to the Gyn. I had sex last week and I want to know if there will be any signs that I had sex in a week or so. Thanks. I hope you understand my question.
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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: p_angel_19
Thu, 12-16-2004 - 7:15pm

Hi p_angel_19, welcome!

Hon, if you had sexual intercourse last week then you are sexually active.

First, it's not a good idea to lie to your doctor. Whether your doctor will be able to tell depends on a number of things. Was there any tearing of your hymen during penetration and intercourse? If not and you are active in athletics you can probably get by unless you are tested and found to have an infection transmitted primarily by intercourse. Was your partner wearing a condom? He should have been as that is the only way that either of you can protect yourselves from STDs. If he wasn't wearing a condom then you should be tested for STDs along with your pap for a good baseline exam before you become any more sexually active. You should confide in your gyn and s/he should respect your privacy.

I know it’s embarrassing, but I would vote for having a good talk with your mom up front if you can as you will eventually need her on your side. If you can't, you might want to try to have your mom wait for you in the waiting room while you have your exam in case there is a need to discuss details with your doctor. But if there is any need for further tests or medicines your Mom will almost certainly know at that point and you will have lost any advantage you may have had by being honest with her. I know this probably isn’t what you wanted to hear but it it’s my best advice.

When you have your exam be sure to tell the nurse that this is your first pelvic so the doctor can explain what s/he is doing. Here is an article on how a first gyn exam should go. Gynecological exam: What you can expect http://www.parentsplace.com/expert/midwife/qas/0,,239718_114219,00.html?arrivalSA=1&cobrandRef=0&arrival_freqCap=2 Let us know how your exam goes, ok?

Good luck,

      Jill

    

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Registered: 05-05-2003
In reply to: p_angel_19
Fri, 12-17-2004 - 12:49am
Thanks for your reply. What I meant by not sexually active is that I only have sex with my boyfriend about once every three months because we are both in different states. He does wear a spermicidal condom and I am on BCP (mainly for irregular periods). I am hoping that my mom is not in the room with me, but trust me. My mom is all about having sex until you get married, so that wont sit well with her. But anyways. Thanks for your response. :)