Annoying pain during sex
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| Fri, 01-07-2005 - 11:27pm |
I'm 20 years old and became sexually active about 2 months ago. Until my boyfriend got tested for STDs, we used condoms. I also went on the Depo-Provera as soon as possible.
My problem is that I get very sore after a few minutes into sex. At first it was a terrible burning sensation, as if I was having a hot red iron rubbed inside of me. When I had my doctors appointment, I told her, she looked at me (I felt as if the speculum was ripping me) and gave me a pill for yeast infections.
It relieved the burning sensation, but sex remains very painful, a bit like a bruise. It takes longer for me to reach the point were it hurts too much, but it still occurs too early for my liking. And after intercourse, it often takes me awhile before I can sit without wincing.
We normally use a lot of lubricant and we've tried without to see if I was allergic to it. The pain is the same with and without. We've also tried with and without condoms. It is slightly more painful without condoms (strangely enough).
Despite the pain, I'm not nervous about sex and I'm often the one who initiates it. I've always had a very strong sex drive (I've been masturbating almost daily since the beginning of my teens)and I've found that sex calms that. I also enjoy have so much intimicy with my boyfriend. However, I'm very frustrated about not being able to get that intercourse pleasure that everyone keeps talking about.
I have an appointment with my doctor, but it's only in a month and I was wondering what could be causing the pain and if there's anything I could do about it while I'm waiting.
Edited 1/7/2005 11:32 pm ET ET by arraicha

Hi arraicha, welcome!
Depo can make you very dry. Did your doctor do a culture to diagnose the YI? If she did and the YI has been cured then perhaps the infection was masking a further problem. It is good that you are using plenty of lube but if you had developed tiny tears in your vaginal walls beforehand you may not have given them time to heal. I think that would explain your burning more without a condom as the salt from his fluids is getting into the tears. If I were you I'd try to see your doctor sooner and have a thorough exam. Or, you could phone her and explain your situation and ask for a soothing ointment to use if she will give it to you without an exam. Let us know how you're doing, ok?
Good luck,
Jill
Thank you :)
No, she didn't do a culture to diagnose the YI. She just took a look, said I was really irritated and that I had a vaginitis and she prescribed me a pill. (The instructions that came with the medication said it was for a YI)
I did find it strange how quickly she diagnosed me, also I looked up the symptoms for a YI and the only one I had was the pain (and a little bit of iching, but nothing major). However, the pill did help quite a bit, so I suppose she was right.
Having small tears in my vaginal walls sounds very plausible, however I find it strange that they don't heal. (My boyfriend and I live in seperate cities, so it happens that we don't see each other for 1-2 weeks at a time, so I should have time to heal)
I will try to get ahold of my doctor sooner and see what happens. Thank you again!
Okay, well, I had my gyno exam today! There is some good news and some bad news. The good news is that I have a condition that exists but the bad news is that there isn't much she can do for me. It should go away on it's own...within the next year.
She said it was "vesticulite". I don't know the English word for it ("vesticulitis" maybe?). It's an inflamation of a part of the entrance of the vagina, near the back, according to where the pain was when she touched me. She said it's fairly common, but that the causes are unknown. She gave me cream for fungus since the yeast infection pill helped a little bit. Hopefully it'll helped some more.
She also advised abstaining from sex for a month, which I agree with although am kinda disappointed about.
Hi arraicha, welcome back!
I'm glad you have a diagnosis. You might want to take a look at several articles on Vulvodynia and Vestibulitis:
What is Vulvodynia? http://familydoctor.org/367.xml
Vulvodynia and Vulvar Vestibulitis: Challenges in Diagnosis and Management
http://www.aafp.org/afp/990315ap/1547.html
You might also want to post on the iVillage Vulvodynia Support board http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhvulvodynia Members there have been where you are now and their advice and experiences might help. Thanks for the update. Please come back and let us know how you're doing, ok?
Good luck and hugs,
Jill
Thank you for the articles! Sorry it took my awhile to respond, I was out of town for the weekend.
I find vestibulitis very discouraging, but at least I was lucky enough to get a diagnosis. I'll take a look at the Vulvodynia board, but vulvodynia seems somewhat different from what I have as I'm only sore during sexual contact.
Anyway, thank you again!