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What is wrong?
| Tue, 01-11-2005 - 5:45pm |
Hi, I'm 19 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now and we are sexually active. I am his first and he is my first, so we have ruled out all STD possibilities... Recently, whenever he tries to insert his fingers into me, i have to tell him to stop because it is too painful. Also, during intercourse, i get very sore and uncomfortable, usually making him stop becuase of the pain. I Immediately go to the bathroom and it burns while urinating... but only after sex. My vagina gets very sore for a short while after intercourse and i do not know what could be wrong. I have been told lubricant will help and next time around we are going to try that, but is there anything else that can be wrong. Why can't he even insert one finger into me without it hurting??
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Hi cmathers, welcome!
Have you had a recent pelvic exam? If you haven't then since you are sexually active you should to make certain everything is ok and get a good set of baseline values for comparison later if needed. If there is no odor or discharge and the burning is during or just after penetration it sounds as though you may have been chaffed from not enough lubrication.
Is he giving you plenty of the kind foreplay you need to become aroused before he tries to penetrate you? If not you may need to teach him what you like. Women usually take a lot longer to become aroused and produce our own lube than guys do and if he is trying to penetrate you when you are dry that can be very uncomfortable.
You may have developed tiny tears in your vaginal tissues that burn when salt from his skin or your urine get in them. You might want to talk to your doctor and see if s/he will give you a soothing ointment to use on the areas that burn. A caution here: If the ointment is oil based and you are using a latex barrier such as condoms or a diaphragm or cap, be sure to avoid intercourse while you are using the ointment or use a non latex barrier (polyurethane condoms) as oil can deteriorate latex very quickly.
Two good water base intimate lubes to use during foreplay and intercourse are Astroglide and K-Y Liquid. I'd stay away from the warming liquids and gels, at least at first, as some women are allergic to the spices in them. And, it’s better to use too much than not enough lube so don’t be shy about using it. I hope you are feeling better soon. Let us know how you're doing, ok?
Good luck,
Jill