please respond i need help

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Registered: 01-19-2005
please respond i need help
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Wed, 01-19-2005 - 11:02pm
this is really worrying me, my boyfreind has fingered me twice and each time i started bleeding. it stopped the next day and i dont know if its my hymen bleeding or not. im a virgin but i was 9 i was raped. my freind told me your hymen can repare itself after a while. he was going a really hard and it got uncomfortable and i always told him to stop. he'd be more gentle afterwards. it scares me mainly because cervical cancer runs through my family through every generation and we just found out my mom has it.
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Thu, 01-20-2005 - 2:21pm

Hi jelliclekat, welcome!

Oh Hon., I'm really sorry about your rape! Your hymen can certainly heal but I don't think that would include the total repair of tears. Some women have hymens and some don't and a hymen can be torn during athletics so a torn hymen is usually no big deal. You might be able to see the site of the bleeding by using a mirror. If I were you I'd see my doctor to find out exactly what's going on and s/he can do a minor procedure to trim or open your hymen if that is the problem. It may just be that if you weren’t really well lubed your BF might have created slight tears in your labia or vaginal wall. Vaginal tissue is very easily damaged by dry conditions so you might want to use an intimate water base lube such as Astroglide or K-Y Liquid.

Since you are beginning to become sexually active now would be a very good time to have a pelvic exam and Pap smear to make sure everything is ok and get a good set of baseline readings for comparison later in life. That way you will have your cervical cancer concerns addressed as well. At this point I think it's very unlikely you have anything to be worried about but a pelvic exam will find out for sure. Thanks for posting. Let us know what you decide and how you're doing, ok?

Good luck,

      Jill