bleeding from sex
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| Wed, 03-09-2005 - 3:13pm |
I posted this on another board then realized I should have posted it here.
I had not had sex for, well, a really long time. I suppose I should have eased back into it but things were pretty intense. He was also um, generously made. Afterwards there was a LOT of blood. I'm not talking about a few spots either. I had a very small amount of bleeding the next day and its pretty much stopped now (It happened Monday night). I should be getting my period in a few days so I thought it could have been that, but I'm pretty sure its not because I would still be having it if it were. There was a little bit of pain when we first started but it only lasted a few thrusts. It really felt like I was losing my virginity all over again. I didn't feel any pain after the first bit and none to speak of since.
I have never had something like this happen before. I don't want to go to the doctor unless I really have to (time and money issues). I don't know if this is serious or the kind of thing that can happen when things get a little too intense but will sort themselves out.
Also, I'm sure I should wait a little bit until I have sex again but I'm not sure how long I should wait.
I'm 38 and have pretty regular periods if this is relavent in any way.

Hi beaisme welcome!
At your last annual was everything ok? And, were you well lubricated during your encounter? It could be that, since he is well endowed, he tore a vestige of your hymen. It sounds to me as though that may have been what happened. You might want to take a mirror and examine the entrance to your vagina. Feel the area where you had the pain and see if you can see evidence of a tear or feel a spot that is sensitive to the touch. Vaginal and Vulvar tissue heal very quickly so if there seems to be no obvious area of tissue that can be re-injured I think it would probably be safe to resume intercourse again by the weekend. If you do, be sure that he is gentle with you and that you use plenty of a good water soluble lube like Astroglide or KY –Liquid.
What sort of birth control are you using? Sometimes textured condoms, if not well lubricated, can cause chaffing, but that doesn’t seem to match with your discomfort for only a brief interval. If the pain reoccurs it would be a good idea to see a doctor to find out exactly what’s going on. If money is tight you might want to consider a public health clinic or a Planned Parenthood health center near you. PP has means tested fee schedules for patients with low incomes. Thanks for posting. Let us know how you’re doing.
Good luck,
Jill
Thank you so much for your reply. I'm glad there is a place like this we can go to for such quick advice and support. It's really appreciated.
I will take your advice about checking for tears or sensitive spots.
We were using condoms but they weren't textured or anything (they were his so I don't know about the lube quality). I usually don't need extra lube, that's never been a problem for me, but I think I will consider that. And bring my own condoms next time.
I just hope the whole incident didn't freak him out and there will be a next time. We haven't talked about it yet. I had to deal with the aftermath to my body, he only had to deal with the aftermath of the laundry but some men can get so freaked out about this kind of thing. We'll see.
I went ahead and made an appointment for my annual exam for the end of the month. I have always been so good about that but I've let myself get six months overdue. I guess this was a good thing because it spooked me into getting my act together. Funny how you think you don't have time and money for something until it zooms up your priority list.
Thank you for the kind words Hon. Please come back and let us know how you're doing.
Good luck and Hugs,
Jill