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??? about my man
| Sat, 04-16-2005 - 3:26pm |
I have a question about my man and his erection? Is this the board to be asking? I have been checking out all of ivillage and cant find the right place to ask.

Hi longtimesrc, Welcome!
We will sure try to help, what is your question or problem?
Jill
Sometimes it can be just stress , if your man is under a lot of stress it can interfere
with the sexual enjoyment even obtaining an erection. There are some meds
that make it hard for a man to get an erection as well for example anti depression
meds and the like . I think in time and understanding all things will work out for the
better be patient give him time his own time I think when women stress on this too much
it makes the man more reluctant to talk and may run not wanting to deal with the
personal problem he is having at hand
I know you don't want to pressure any one
take care co cl of the HIV/AIDS board
georgianna
Hi longtimesrc, Welcome back!
Erectile problems are quite common in men and can have a number of different causes. A good article on erection difficulties is Erection problems: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003164.htm which list a lot of problems that can result in ED and what can be done to help. If his concern is really an unintended pregnancy then you could try to allay his fears by going on an effective method of birth control yourself such as hormonal contraceptives and see if that helps his performance but with oral sex there is no risk of pregnancy and if he gets only semi-hard for oral that suggests to me that his problem is something other than fear of pregnancy. Other things you could try are wearing clothes that he finds particularly arousing or watching erotic videos and see if that has any effect.
I think he's probably going to have to want help himself, to the extent of going to a urologist to find out what his problem really is. Good communication between partners is very important when trying to discuss a problem like ED. As the other poster said pressuring him might make the problem worse if he will not go to his doctor. Let us know how you and he are doing. Thanks for posting.
Good luck,
Jill
Hi
Thanks for the advice. I think that I may have some answers to my question. Last night during our usual make out session his erection was harder. I believe that this was due to the fact that he didnt drink much. He was able to perform more, but still refused intercourse. He was more erect but still wasnt firm all of the time. I think that drinking is affecting his ability. We have discussed this at lenght and he is working on quiting drinking all together. We are hoping for the best. Thanks for all your help.
longtimesrc