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| Mon, 05-16-2005 - 6:39pm |
Hi All...I'm new to the boards--24, female.
I recently met an amazing man, and we are dating. We couldn't be more compatible on pretty much every level so far. We've talked about practically everything, spending hours talking every day. We're both so excited to have met eachother. Here's the catch...last night, he told me that he has herpes. We have not established a physical relationship yet, and that is why he told me now, before we got to that point. We talked about it for a while, and we both have a pretty good understanding of the disease. He got it from an ex a couple years ago who cheated on him. What I need your help with is this--I told him that of course I'd prefer he didn't have herpes, I don't see it as a reason not to see eachother anymore. We talked about how if and when we want to have sex, we would ALWAYS use every protective measure possible, and I told him I would talk to my OB GYN about all of this. So my question is--is this healthy for me to pursue a relationship with him, or is my falling in love making me irrational. Can a relationship work with him or am I being stupid?

Hi redlightgo, welcome!
>> So my question is--is this healthy for me to pursue a relationship with him, or is my falling in love making me irrational. Can a relationship work with him or am I being stupid? <<
Only you can answer that question and right now you are still searching for information on which to base a decision. I think you probably could make the relationship work… if you wanted to. What I would suggest is you post your message on the STD board where members have been in your position and can share their experiences with you. The link to the iVillage STD board is: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhsexdisease I’m not running you away, I hope you will stay around and post but the STD board has far more experience with Herpes than we do here. Thanks for posting. I hope you will come back and let us know what you decide. Good luck and…
Hugs,
Jill
Hello redlightgo, yes if you feel good about being around each other if you have
good feelings for one another I have to give this young man a lot of credit for his courage
and for being forth coming he could have taken his chances and not said anything
I have only posted here once or twice but this just seemed to be the perfect
Hi Georgianna, welcome!
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Your post is an inspiration to us all especially to those of us whom life has given extra challenges. May the two of you live happily ever after!
(((HUGS)))
Jill