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Hymen not breaking
| Tue, 05-31-2005 - 1:25pm |
I recently started having sex with my boyfriend. When he's not completely erect, I feel no pain, but if he is, sex is very painful. I went to the gynecologist, who told me that it is because my hymen is stretching, not breaking. I know there's a very minor procedure that can be done to correct this problem, but that's not an option for me (I am extremely nervous being at the gynecologist, and have fainted before because the exam makes me so uncomfortable). He also said there are stretching techniques that can work just as well as the medical procedure, but couldn't give me any specific information or instructions on them. I've looked in many different books and tried a few web sites, but I haven't been able to find any more details. Can you explain the stretching technique to me, or point me to somewhere that has detailed information?

Hi taurus15aim, welcome!
The information below on stretching your hymen is from The-Clitoris.com http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/virgin2.htm Since you are new to penile vaginal intercourse it would be a good idea if you read the whole article entitled ‘The First Time.’ The Clitoris.com is a great site for information on female sexuality.
“The way to avoid pain and bleeding is to slowly and gently stretch the hymen and vagina prior to engaging in intercourse. It seems if the normal course of sexual development occurs, the hymen would be slowly and painlessly dilated long before intercourse occurred for the first time. A woman can do this herself using her fingers. Lubricate your finger with a water based lubricant or saliva and then slowly and gently insert it into your vagina while masturbating. You must be sexually aroused when you do this. Use one hand to caress your clitoris while the other explores your vagina. In the beginning, only the tip of your finger may enter. With your finger or fingertip inside your vagina, gently press your finger outward from the center of your vagina. Imagine your vagina is at the center of a clock face and gently press your finger towards each number on the clock face. Press until you feel some resistance, but not so much that you feel pain, for a couple seconds, then repeat pressing in a new direction. Work your way around the clock face. This stretches the hymen and muscles. Over time, slowly work your way up to three fingers, or an object of equivalent size. Some will find they can do this without difficulty within a week or less, others will require several months. It all depends on how elastic your hymen is and how relaxed and flexible your pelvic and vaginal muscles are.”
If you and your bf haven’t been tested for STDs it would be a good idea to use condoms until you are certain that both of you are free of diseases because for some there is no cure and some can be fatal. And, a good intimate lubricant like Astroglide, Slippery Stuff or K-Y Liquid can make intercourse so much more comfortable for you. For more information about birth control choices stop by the Birth Control board at: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-bhcontracept?redirCnt=1 Thanks for posting. Let us know how you’re doing.
Good luck,
Jill