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having boyfriend troubles
| Fri, 08-19-2005 - 10:00pm |
Has anyone just not ever wanted to have sex with their boyfriend, I love him, Im attracted to him, but I never want to do it

Hi mariaparatore, welcome!
Low libido is not uncommon in women. Have you had a higher sex drive in the past? Sexual desire can be affected by things such as stress or a medical condition and a very common side effect of hormonal contraceptives is a lower the libido. That happened to me, which is why I stopped taking BCPs and switched to a nonhormonal method of contraception. So there may be a way to increase your libido. A good article on female sexual desire is: Women and sex: What is 'dysfunctional'? http://www.apa.org/monitor/apr03/women.html You might want to talk with your doctor and see what s/he says. Thanks for posting. Let us know how you’re doing, ok?
Good luck,
Jill
Hi, welcome back!
>>The current guy I am with is great, we don't fight, no jealousy, he wants to please me, I love everything about him, but I am having serious issues with being sexually attracted to him. Don't know what to do. To worsen matters, the second guy wants to get back together with me.<<
It sounds to me as though the earlier issues with your present bf are still not entirely resolved on your part. It might be a good idea to seek counseling to try and resolve them. Even prioritizing your wants and needs from a relationship and then ranking the two guys against what you are looking for in a man might be helpful. Let us know how you're doing and what to decide, ok?
Good luck,
Jill