this has never happened? do I need a doc
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| Mon, 12-19-2005 - 5:00pm |
I have a situation that has never happened to me before..
My current relationship has moved on to 'in bed'. We've had sex 4 times now, but only the first time were we able to finish up. I'm having a probably of 'drying up' in the middle of it (probably after 20-30 minutes).
There's nothing wrong with him. He's very satisfying to me (certain looks or touches will get me going). I love him, I want to be with him. He will do (and has done) anything and everything to get me wet again. He'll get me there pretty quick, but it doesn't last that long once we get back to the sex (like 10 mins). We've used KY to start back quick but that just gets absorbed too quick too, I guess. When this happens he is completely understanding.
My first thought was "is it because of having a kid"? But I've had sex since having my son (by c-section too). My last relationship that carried into bed, he had said to me that he was amazed at how wet I would become.
Is there any suggestions to use that will help keep it going? Is there something that I'm doing that could make it happen? (I don't have any life changing events right now).
Or do I need to see a doctor about this??

Hi tiger_mom02, welcome!
>> We've had sex 4 times now, but only the first time were we able to finish up. I'm having a probably of 'drying up' in the middle of it (probably after 20-30 minutes) ... My last relationship that carried into bed, he had said to me that he was amazed at how wet I would become. <<
Have you started using hormonal contraceptives, or changed brands of the pill, patch or ring since your previous relationship? Some BCPs can significantly reduce the amount of natural lube a woman produces. If that is what is going on you can talk to your doctor about a pill switch. I like Astroglide, a water based intimate lube, which I think is nearest to my natural lube. Or, you might want to try Bodyglide Ultra a silicone base lube I use Bodyglide if I’m having sex in a tub or pool or if I’m really dry and I know we are going to be playing for quite a while.
You say that you are well aroused, at least at first. Is there anything that your partner isn't doing that you would like him to do to keep you aroused? If there is then suggest it to him. Or, if you aren't already doing so you might want to project yourself and your partner into one of your fave erotic fantasies and see if that helps. Sometimes if things are a bit ho-hum (and that can happen even with the most spontaneous couples) I will imagine I’m being ravished by… (chose your fave!)... and get very drippy and nearly go wild in DF’s arms.
Thanks for posting. I hope some of this helps. If you have more questions, please ask. Let us know how you're doing, ok?
Good luck,
Jill