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| Thu, 01-19-2006 - 12:28am |
I had sex with my new boyfriend for the first time two nights ago. I apparently am fairly shallow because he couldn't go very far in without it hurting. It has been over a year since I had sex and the first and only other guy I have ever slept with (my ex) would occasionally hit my cervix if he went too deep but this is worse than that. I know it's the same pain but everytime he penetrates it hurts. Will this get better or is he never going to be able to go in all the way?

Hi mnshne22, welcome!
I'm sorry hon, I know having your cervix bumped can be very painful. Have you recently had a pelvic exam so that you know that everything is ok? I think there are several things that might account for your discomfort with your new partner. Is he is much larger than your former partner? If so, that may account for it. Or, if your uterus has tipped that may have put your cervix at greater risk of being bumped in some positions. If you haven't tried already, you might want to try being penetrated from behind. I've found that my partner can penetrate me more deeply and more comfortably when I’m in that position.
Or, it may just be that you were nervous with a new guy and weren't completely aroused. We take a lot more foreplay to become aroused than do guys and being aroused can make a very big difference in comfort. That's because when a woman is fully aroused her uterus withdraws up and back moving the cervix out of the way of a thrusting penis.
I hope this has helped. Thanks for posting. If you have more questions please ask. Come back and let us know how you're doing, ok?
Good luck,
Jill
A ob/gyn check up is a good idea with or without pain so that the doctor can just check to make sure that everything is how it is supposed to be ;)