New here with questions...

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Registered: 03-11-2006
New here with questions...
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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 8:25pm
Hi there, this is my first time to this message board. I'm 31, married 7 years today to a wonderful man. He's a terrific father and provider, if he's not at work he's home with us. We've been together 12 years and our sex life was never that strong from the beginning compared to other relationships I've had, he's never been with anyone else.  We've always had sort of a roommate relationship and put the kids first but  I am growing increasing bored. We just don't have a spark and I've tried everything and lately due to different schedules don't really have a sex life at all. We just went away for the  night to a hotel for our anniversary while the kids stayed with Grandma and we did have sex once because that was the thing to do and we hadn't really done it in the past 3 months but it's just so boring and I rarely orgasam with him anymore. I just use a vibrator after he's finished. I've talked til I'm blue in the face and get no results. Honestly, my once sky high sex drive has dried up. I just don't want to do it anymore, it's that bad. Is this normal after you've been together for awhile? Neither of us has a role model for marriage as both our parents had very messy divorces early on. I just can't see staying like this for the rest of my life but the rest of my life is quite comfortable. Not money wise but in other ways. Help!

 

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Mon, 07-24-2006 - 10:12pm

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Registered: 03-11-2006
Tue, 07-25-2006 - 6:05am

Thanks for answering but that's what I mean, I do all of that stuff and oh so much more, and to his credit he has had more of an interest. But now I'm the one with little desire for it, it's just so routine and even when I try to plan something new the feelings aren't there. I am not on medications or anything like that, I can still get turned on by other things or people, just not him. I'm feel like the men I hear on these sites saying they are bored by it. I'm just worried that this is part of married life and I need to accept that, and if it's not does that mean our relationship is doomed because I don't feel any sparks? I'd love to hear from those people who have

 

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 12:33am

Hi Tanya, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 03-11-2006
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 6:39am
Wow, that was a lot of information. Thank you. I'm going to actually print it off I think and go through it point by point. I'll be sure to let you know what I come up with.

 

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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 6:48pm

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