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| Wed, 08-09-2006 - 3:04pm |
I'm in a serious relationship with someone and for the most part our sex lives are great and I really enjoy it. The problem is that very often now at the beginning I can be really tight and it doesn't always feel good. It's not because I'm not aroused, and we use lots of lubricant and he tends to finger me before. The problem is, sometimes I'm still tight and I worry about it before we have sex and I'm wondering if that just makes me tighter. I didn't use to have this problem and i think its gotten worse because I always worry about it right before we have sex and although I really want to, I'm afraid I'll be tight and consequently I am. However, after starting I loosen up with 10 or 15 seconds but it can leave me feeling sore if I'm too tight at the start.
Am I right, is it because I worry and need to relax more or could there be another reason.
If that is the case, is there any tips on how I can relax more because I tend to think "Am I relaxed, and I relaxing? Oh gosh I don't think Im relaxed enough, its going to hurt."
Its a shame because I really really enjoy sex and its starting to put me off.
I couldn't find any other mentions of this so is there anyone who can help?
p.s. I lost my virginity about 7 months ago and we've been having sex on a regular basis for the last four months so it can't be that

Hi finny :)
Yup, you probably already have the answer to your own question.
Hi
Jill