my boyfriend has trouble climaxing

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Registered: 10-14-2006
my boyfriend has trouble climaxing
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Sat, 10-14-2006 - 9:39am

My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about 6 weeks. Slightly more than half the time he has trouble maintaining an erection and getting to orgasm and ejaculation. Part of this he attributes to his own stress about being able to maintain an erection, something that he said he began having trouble with about a year ago (when he was in another relationship). He had trouble once, twice...and from then on it's been a downward spiral and a stressful situation for him. Just recently he told me that he's always had difficulty climaxing throughout his entire sexual history.

Any ideas? I appreciate that he's comfortable enough to talk to me about this, and he's very willing to make sure I'm satisfied, but I'd like to help him if I could.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 11:06am

Hi rossigirl, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 10-14-2006
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 1:34pm

Hello Jill - Thanks for your quick reply. He says that he's in perfect health as it relates to blood pressure, etc. I'm not quite sure how to broach the subject that it may be ED and requiring something beyond learning to watch alcohol intake, curtail his negative thoughts, etc.

Before he had his first sexual experience he was treated for non-Hodgkins lymphoma in his early & mid teen years. Is it at all possible that his troubles are a lasting side effect of some of those treatments? (It was 20+ years ago.)

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sat, 10-14-2006 - 4:49pm

Hi again,


      Jill

    

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 11-08-2006 - 9:48am
Tickle his balls, and if that doesn't work, lubricate your finger and shove it up his ass.
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Registered: 11-29-2006
Wed, 11-29-2006 - 12:05pm

You said your boyfriend is having some stress. Could he maybe taking any anti-depressant drugs? A boyfriend of mine once had trouble ejaculating. We couldn't figure out what was wrong. It wasn't lack of desire, or ability to get erect. He wanted to have sex every day, and never had trouble maintaining an erection. But he just couldn't reach climax, and it was really frustrating for him and me. We thought it was an anxiety thing that was preventing it from happening. Now, he had been taking Zoloft all that time, and one night we were reading the package insert, and it said it can cause "ejaculatory dysfunction". He stopped taking it, and the problem was solved almost immediately!