Sex hurts

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Sex hurts
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Wed, 11-22-2006 - 3:23am
I've been dealing with painful intercourse since I started having sex (so it's been 4 years). It's a burning feeling (and it's there when I'm not having sex sometimes too... like tampons, etc) and it also hurts like someone is punching me in the cervix. But I'm pretty sure I can't have an STD because the only people I've slept with were tested and free of STD's, and we always used a condom.
It's not an allergy to latex because we've tried latex free condoms, and plenty of lubes, and it still hurts.
I don't think it's a lack of sex drive because I get turned on and WANT to have sex, but it hurts. It's getting to the point where I can't get turned on at ALL anymore because thinking about sex is not a pleasurable thought anymore.
I asked my doctor about my problem and she just brushed it off like it was nothing. !!!!!!!
I just want to have a normal sex life... what's wrong with me?
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Registered: 12-30-2003
In reply to: cali_girl83
Wed, 11-22-2006 - 10:30pm

Hi cali_girl83, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 01-08-2006
In reply to: cali_girl83
Sat, 11-25-2006 - 3:56pm

Hi,

I just wanted to let you know that I have the same problem as you. Im not on birth control pills and it hurts with or without a condom. I dont enjoy sex as much as I would like to and when I think about it I just think its going to hurt and dont want to do it!! I just kinda suck it up though (at least for my boyfriends sake!) and use crazy amounts of lube and a good attitude. Actually the only time it feels good and doenst hurt is when im drunk because everything is just kinda numbed up so I dont feel the burning. I do have genital herpes (the type caused by cold sores through oral sex), but I dont have outbreaks and my doctor says it has nothing to do with it. I didnt lose my virginity until AFTER I got hsv so I dont even know if its contributing to the pain or not. Ive been researching as much as I can about it because I dont want to spend my whole life like this, im only 23!!

LunA

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Registered: 11-07-2003
In reply to: cali_girl83
Sun, 11-26-2006 - 8:31pm
Definitely find a new doctor.
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Registered: 10-09-2005
In reply to: cali_girl83
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 2:20am
thanks for the reply! I am on oral contraceptives, so that could be true. Thank you for the info, I'm definitely going to look into Vulvodynia. Time to find a doctor that isn't from my school now that I'm graduating.
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Registered: 10-09-2005
In reply to: cali_girl83
Thu, 11-30-2006 - 2:22am
I know it sucks! I just suck it up too, because my first boyfriend felt so badly about not wanting to hurt me that things eventually fell apart, so now with my new guy, he knows it hurts, but I just suck it up for him. Man boys are soo lucky.
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Registered: 05-31-2006
In reply to: cali_girl83
Tue, 12-05-2006 - 12:58am
You really should get a second opinion. I'm not a doctor or anything but you could have endometriosis.
https://www.endoknow.com/?c=951&v=SMCD493
thats a little test that you can take that might help with some questions about it. good luck.