Just not interested!

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Registered: 11-21-2006
Just not interested!
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Mon, 12-18-2006 - 10:32am

Hi everyone, my name is Amy and I am new to this board.

Well, let's just say I have a problem. To make a long story short, I'm not interested in sex anymore. I have a boyfriend who I love with all my heart, we have been together for a year and a half. I find that I am just not interested in sex at all. I know that it bothers him and I feel really bad about it. I wish that I could find out what is causing this problem! Sometimes I find that I don't really want to be touched.

I have been on paxil for a few years, for an anxiety disorder and I know that it has sexual side effects. Changing the medication is not an option because I tried and my anxiety became paralizing!

I hope there is something that I can do to fix this! Sometimes I just find it gross, or it just doesn't feel right. My boyfriend and I never really get privacy because we are currently living with his mother (we're 22 years old and saving to buy a house) and there aren't any doors on the bedrooms. (I know it's weird don't even ask lol) I am just left wondering where my sex drive has gone and what I could do to bring it back!

Help!
Amy

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Mon, 12-18-2006 - 10:30pm

Hi amy_a2006, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 11-21-2006
Tue, 12-19-2006 - 9:09am

Hi there!

Thanks a bunch for your reply! I am on BCP's and have been for 8 years. If I can find another effective form of BC I would love to try it!

I will post on the other board.

Thank you!
Amy

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Registered: 01-09-2007
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 2:44pm
I'm going through the same thing! Thought I was crazy until I see that there are other women just like me. I just switched from Paxil to Celexa after being on Paxil for 7 years. The affects of the Paxil just kinda "pooped out", so I switched and it really helped with that problem. My libido, though, is a -100! Non-existent. Other than this problem I have a perfect life! Perfect husband, (other than the fact that he wants sex), 5 wonderful children, a great job working from home... and thank God never have to worry about finances. How then, could I be sooo miserable. My husband actually asked me the other day if I was a lesbian! Ugh! I told him...NO...Brad Pitt OR Angelina Jolie could walk through my door and want it and I would say no. Haven't figured out the problem yet...wish I could. Really causing problems in my "perfect" life. Thought you'd just like to know you're not alone!
Thanks for voicing yourself, so I know I'm not alone! Good Luck!
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 3:17pm

Hi

      Jill

    

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Registered: 01-09-2007
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 10:03am

Not on BC...after 5 kids, husband is "snipped". My husband & I started reading a book together that may help. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. This libido thing may be as simple as a communication/understanding problem. We'll see. The book is definately helping me understand him better.

I'll keep you posted.

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 11:40am

Hi again mom_svanasmls, welcome back!


      Jill