Freaket out about STD's
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| Wed, 12-20-2006 - 2:39pm |
During my short marriage, my husband cheated on me and I freaked out about him giving me STD's but thank God all tests came negative.
I have a 3 yr old son and am single now. I have gone more than a year and a half without dating or sex. I am starting to go out again now and meeting guys. I do not want a serious relationship for a loooong time but I need to have sex again. I would like to ask each potential sexual partner to get an HIV test to put my mind at ease, but that also kills the sense of sexual spontaneity. Besides, HIV doesn't show up until 6 months after contracting it in some cases, a partner could be unfaithful at any time... So I do not know if it is worth it killing some of the mood with HIV tests first or is it better to just trust a condom, which is not perfect (like the partners). I just want to enjoy sex but also live to see my son graduate, my grandchildren, etc.
thanx for your input.

Hi ch_mommy, welcome!
Jill
Thanx for your response cl. I decided to use a condom as I've always done (except with my ex husband, who had been tested negative, but then cheated on me). I think it's better than trusting a partner that has no STD's and having sex without a condom, and then finding out he cheated (therefore putting me at risk).
Jill