No feeling, no libido :-(

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Registered: 01-11-2007
No feeling, no libido :-(
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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 6:15pm
Hello,
There are many posts about lost libido and the such, but to add to this I have absolutely no feeling during sex, only afterwards when it hurts. During foreplay it's not quite so bad but as soon as anything goes in, that's it, feels like I've been jabbed with a numbing solution. Throughout sex I'm always wishing for my boyfriend to hurry up and finish then I can stop pretending I'm enjoying myself when really I'm not, and he knows it. I don't enjoy sex anymore, I start to dread it at night when we head to bed 'cause I know he'll want to and I seem to end up doing it out of guilt more than enjoyment and pleasure. Is there anything that can be suggested to either help feeling-wise or how to increase libido. I am currently taking cilest, could this possibly be the main factor in the libido loss? Maybe?
Any ideas....?
Ta
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Thu, 01-11-2007 - 9:42pm

Hi

      Jill

    

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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 9:45pm
hi, i feel the same as u do i have been married a long 22 years and 42 years old i dont have that sexy feeling that i used to. i want to deeply enjoy sex but i dont. i miss it?
do u miss that feeling of i mean good sex. Do u have a good relationship? i feel that
if you are open and are okay with your self then well i cant spit this out with out making myself sound silly. any i feel the same way u do i can not wait for him to get off me so we could be done. but deep down i really want to have the most hot sex ever. it is so frustrating.. Is it to allsoooo i hope u over come this as i do i think my has a lot to do with a loving mate i have lost that some where down the road.. well i have not help u probbly not but i feel for u. wish u luck. keep us posted...
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Sat, 01-13-2007 - 7:36pm

What you guys are talking about is exactly the way I feel and what's really sad is that I've only been married a little over a year and I was a virgin when I got married and sex just isn't what I thought it would be because I'm assuming my birth control messed up my hormones and I just don't feel anything one way or the other. I've been off birth control for I guess 8 months and I was just wondering how long it would take for the feeling to some back or would I have to take some kind of pill for that?

Thanks
Kellie

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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 4:25am
Thanks for your post. I went on the pill about a year before I had sex and unfortuneately could do to stay on it because my periods made me anaemic, so I don't know if there was any feeling there before. We do use K-Y jelly, so I think a trip to the doctors is needed....again, let's just not tell the other half because it'll add to his 'i told you to do that' list lol
Thanks for your advice!
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sun, 01-14-2007 - 12:23pm

Hi again aspiringlawyer,


      Jill

    

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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 4:06pm
Thanks for that Jill, I'll take a note of those with me when I go and see what she says. I'll keep you posted!