At the end of my rope

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2007
At the end of my rope
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Mon, 04-09-2007 - 1:06pm

Hi everyone,

I recently got married and never had premarital sex...and I'm SO frustrated!!! I don't know what's wrong with me. I like kissing my husband, but I don't like having sex. I feel so uncomfortable. We haven't had intercourse yet because its too painful for me. Even when he puts his finger in me its very painful. He tried with his mouth, but I hated it. It just makes me more uncomfortable. He tries to be patient, but sometimes he gets upset, and I definately get upset because I feel like something is wrong with me. I went to a gynecologist and she said everything looks fine. I just dont' know what to do. Its so frustrating that sex feels so unbelievably unnatural and uncomfortable for me while so many other people are talking about how they can't get enough of it. I feel like nobody understands and nobody can help me. I cry every day about it. The gynecologist was asking me if I have any depression or anxiety outside of the bedroom, and I really don't. The rest of my life is going great. Its just hard to be positive about sex anymore. I don't know what to do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2003
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 9:40pm

Hi ohcali, welcome!


      Jill