would like to ask a question......

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Registered: 06-09-2004
would like to ask a question......
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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 7:08pm

In sexual relationships between male and female - is it abnormal for a woman not to want to give a guy a blow job? like the woman is not the least bit interested - she is turned off by blow jobs. Would most guys walk away if this were the case?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:12pm

Hi hashell2004, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 5:49pm

Hi Jill, thank you for your response....

I am not presently in a relationship - its been a long time. As a rule I feel the same way about sex as you do - intercourse. My question stems from a rape incident where BJ was involved. It is the last thing I would want to experience again but dont feel that I am incapable of enjoying a healthy sexual relationship. There are some things I simply won't bow to. And I'm afraid I may be too rigid because of my experiences. I am receiving good therapy - and trying to be patient in this progress. I fight feelings of trying to please at the expense of my happiness and know this would lead me to similar situations. So tend to withdraw from trying.

Guess my fear is if I can't perform as a partner would like,it would reflect on past history of abuse. I like to think I dont agree with that on the intellectual level however still am struggling very much emotionally. gotta keep on keeping on.

ninas.

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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 10:58pm

Hi ninas,


      Jill

    

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Thu, 04-19-2007 - 7:02pm
I think it would be a good idea to know sooner than later. and yah we can offer alternatives. I think it is feeling like we are not up to standard when we dont feel we can follow through with what is wanted. we know we shouldnt let that intimidate us - well just working through this. thanks a bunch. :)