Pain doggy style.... and leg pain...

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Registered: 04-21-2007
Pain doggy style.... and leg pain...
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 5:34pm

Hey all,

I have a rather slim/petite girlfriend who I care for very much.

Two questions please answer in the same manner so as not to get us both confused.... ;)
eg:

1. answer one here
2. answer two here

Here goes:
1. After we have sex with me on top and if it does on for something like 15-30 mins my girl's "upper legs" (thigh area and a bit below...just above the knees) really hurt... in her words: "its like I ran a 100 miles!"
Why is that? I have been with quite a few women and they have never had this problem.
Is it because my girl (24yrs old) has been sexually inactive till now or is it because she is kinda petite/slim/thin? Shes also not very flexable (to be a bit graphic, please excuse) she cant open her legs very wide or for example cant put one of her legs over my shoulder with me on top without pain...
We even tried this with her on top of me, her legs on my sides, weight kind of on her shins not on her feet... (something liek this: http://www.master-your-g-spot.com/images/sex_position_woman_on_top.png) and she does not feel any pain while we are doing it but after we are finished...she has the pain...

2. She feels pain when / if I try to take her from the back...doggy style... and she cant take much so maybe 20 strokes later she asks me to come on top of her instead...when I do she is extremly wet so that isnt the problem... what can be the problem?

Thanks in advance,
R

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 12:15am

Hi musicgu7, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 04-21-2007
Sat, 04-28-2007 - 8:25am

Hey!

Thanks for taking the time to respond to my thread!

Nope, as far as I know she has not taken a pelvic test/exam, will ask her to do so.

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....Or, she could try putting a pillow under her buttocks and relax, just using her legs to steady herself, and let you do all the work.
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Will suggest it!

Did not have any idea about the cervix thingy (sorry!) but I think she was pretty aroused when we tried it, cant really remember but I think we tried it after I was on top of her (her fav position) and she was very wet... but will keep it in mind for next time.

Thanks again!
R

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Registered: 04-25-2007
Wed, 05-02-2007 - 4:17am
Hi R,
I'm not sure about your second question - I agree with the other poster and also definitely encourage your girl to get a wellness exam. But for #1...
It sounds like muscle fatigue to me! Jogging, strength training, and stretching might really help you guys out. You mention her limited flexibility--stretching and/or jogging would help with that. Building those leg and hip muscles might just be the answer. I have a slight build as well but I've done a lot of running/etc and I must say that being flexible certainly creates a lot more (comfortable) sexual options! You can always make running and stretching a couple's activity, with a nice hot shower together after. It's awesome that you are patient and both looking for a loving sexual experience. The only other thing I can suggest is that you keep as much of your weight off of her as you can when you are on top like that. As her muscles loosen up (maybe even stretching/warming up before sex might help??) she can move around underneath you to be comfortable and so you both can enjoy the experience. There are lots of other positions to try (side by side is great) and you can always support her body with cushions or rolled blankets - use trial and error to place them optimally.
Hope something I've said has helped. Good luck and happy lovemaking
--shamrock
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Registered: 05-20-2007
Sun, 05-27-2007 - 9:11pm

2. If you are in the "traditional" doggy-style and she is wet enough but is still in pain, then you are most likely hitting her cervix. I myself don't like to stay in the "traditional" doggy position for too long because it starts to hurt a little. However, if you just gotta have that from-behind sex, you should try starting in doggy, then work your way to something like this position:

http://kamasutrafree.stores.yahoo.net/ciconbougwor.html

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Registered: 04-21-2007
Mon, 05-28-2007 - 10:38am

Hey!
Thanks for replying.

Yep, after reading around a bit and looking at various diagrams I think you may be right..

Thanks for the link, will give it a shot. (No pun intended ;p )

Cheers!
R