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| Tue, 05-01-2007 - 6:25pm |
hello, i have an embarassing issue that i'm dealing with and i have a hard time talking to people about it... recently i was diagnosed with 2 stds. i'm super upset about it and had a hard time talking to my boyfriend about it because i was both scared and ashamed of the situation. i am a fan and believer in monogamous relationships, however, my last boyfriend cheated on me with multiple people and i'm fairly sure that's how i contracted the stds. needless to say i'm pretty upset about that. luckily my current boyfriend is understanding and hasn't made me feel worse about it in any way shape or form. he lets me know how much he loves me and how this hasn't changed anything. even though i have been treated for both infections(and so has he), i can't get over feeling dirty about it. we never really used condoms before (i'm on the pill) but i can't get over feeling dirty and like i should have him wear one always now. i used to enjoy sex with him so much, but since this happened i can't seem to. i just end up feeling gross and like i don't deserve to take pleasure in sex anymore. we went through a period of time where we didn't have sex for about 2 weeks (for us that's a really long time) and now whenever we do i have stomach cramps afterwards. i'm not sure if it's a physical reaction or whether i'm making myself feel sick because i feel disguisted about it. how can i get past this and start enjoying sex again?! it's so frustrating to me and i don't know what i can do. any suggestions? i hate feeling like this. thank you.

Hi
Jill