Heavy vaginal bleeding/Tear etc.....
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| Wed, 05-23-2007 - 10:58pm |
hi,
I am a 26 years old female, from Bombay, India. i am 45 kgs, 5 feet 5 inches tall. Basically here's my story... I am having an affair with a married Italian guy who is 45 yrs old. i was date raped 7 years ago, and was afraid of sex. this guy has helped me overcome that fear. anyways we were having sex last saturday. everything was ok. we had already done it once that day. the second time however we tried a different position (me on my back with my legs almost over my head, and him on top of me) in hopes of going "deep". everything was fine even then, but then immediately after he got out of me i suddenly started bleeding down south. first a little, then a LOT. i had had my period just 5 days ago, so i thought maybe the period has started again or whatever. But it just kept on bleeding. the bleeding started at 3 pm. we were at his hotel room, and didnt want to create a scene so we waited a while, trying to contain the bleeding with hotel napkins, towels etc. finally at 5 pm he gave me two tablets of Penadol. but the bleeding just got worse. it wasnt just blood, but also some sort of flesh (best way i can describe it is: raw chicken liver...kinda like that texture and small bits...). finally we asked for a doctor. who checked my bp, said it was relatively normal, but should go to a hospital. we reached a hospital at 7 pm. by that time i had lost so much blood, i was weak and collapsed on the hospital floor. i later learnt that i had broken my nose from the fall. but that was later...
the gyneo put in a "pack" which contained the bleeding. she asked me to check in the hospital, get a sonogram and get operated coz so much blood meant that there was a major tear somewhere. but because i HAD to get home (i couldnt tell my parents how the bleeding started etc etc), so as soon as the blood stopped bleeding, we went home.
The next day i went back to another gyno who examined me again using those weird tools etc. that caused a little bleeding too. she said it was because that whole area is raw. she told to geta pelvic sonogram too. did that. the sonogram said by uterus was biocorn-something (meaning it would lead toa difficult pregnancy) and that my ovaries were mildly enlarged and polycystic. the gyneo said the bleeding was from a membrane that ruptured, but none of the essential ones. seems i had an extra one ..."a congenital defect"...and sicne the bleeding was artifically stopped, some of it is lodged in between the cervix and uterus. and that is what is causing pain in that region now. she gave me medication that i am still on ; and that i need to get this surgery done to remove this extra bit of membrane. although i want it immediately, she said the best time would be immediately after my next period ends so there is a maximum healing period or the period blood could cause an infection with the stitches...(so about 1 month more, assuming i get my period on time). in the meantime, i am still getting pain in my lower abdominal region. no more blleding, itching or discharge (was having that on my last visit to the gyneo).
Plus had gone to the ortho for pains in my nose and skull. the skull is fine, but the nsoe is broken, and now i am walking around with a dark blue-black marking near my eye, and a bandaged nose. am also getting these headaches intermittantly. which is why i went back for a skull x-ray, but that was normal. basically, dont know who to get that treated from and what is teh cause of it. the doctor said i lost over 1.5 liters of blood that nite, and has asked me to keep taking in electrolytes at home....
my question is -
was the gyneo correct? i mean we hear a lot of stories of doctors asking patients to undergo surgeries they dont need, in hopes of making a quick buck...
what if i dont get the surgery...will it start bleeding again when i have sex? This is the last thing i need..i mean with my background and all...after so many years of fearing sex, i really dont need another obstacle that will make me fear sex...
Its been a week and two days since all this happened, but i still feel weak. what should i do about that?
also, the sonogram diagnosis (that i will have a difficult pregancy or miscarraige) has put me in a depression. i dont even want children. everyone around me knows that, that i would rather have a litter of puppies than babies of my own. but yet... Its like, i want it to be my choice that i dont have children, not that i cant have children...
anyone faced such a thing before? any advice?

Hi miz_zenobia, welcome!
Jill