First Timer- need help please :(

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Registered: 04-16-2003
First Timer- need help please :(
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 9:17pm
Hi Everyone, I hope someone can help me. I'm in my mid 30's & still a virgin, recently my boyfriend & I tried having sex but he was having trouble getting it in, we even used KY Sensual Silk but I guess since I am so tight, he's not able to insert his penis inside. Well he was able to get one finger in, but when he tried two, it was painful :( I did get a pelvic exam a month ago & the smaller speculum was used but I tolerated that. Any suggestions on how we can have better luck next time? I know it's going to hurt the first time.
Thanks!
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Tue, 05-29-2007 - 10:35pm

Hi ejc0931, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 10:57pm

Hi ejc,

I remember this same thing happening with my first attempt at loosing my virginity. It would just feel like he was plowing his penis into my vagina and nothing would give, kind of like there was a brick wall in the way preventing it from happening. I was so mortified after trying it a second and third time that I ended up breaking up with him afterwords. I was a teenager at the time and teenagers like to do silly things like that!

My next attempt was with another boyfriend who I had been dating for almost a year before we decided to try. Not to sound to crude, but in order for the vaginal opening to be large enough for him to fit inside without tearing you your going to have to be able to have two fingers width of an opening, you dont want this to be an excessivly painful expierence! Also, relax as much as possible, dont plan and stress to much over it. The more into the moment you are the less tense you muscles are going to be, which will allow the penis to enter smoothly. Dont start fooling around with him with the idea that THIS WILL BE THE MOMENT, because in all reality it might not be!

I hope this helps, please respond if you want any further tips!