He won't go down on me...

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Registered: 06-13-2005
He won't go down on me...
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 10:58pm
I started dating this guy recently...we actually dated a long time ago but it never got physical. I'm crazy about him as a person...but in bed, things really fall apart. Not only does he speed through foreplay, but he won't go down on me. I didn't say anything about it at first, thinking one day he would do it on his own, but the day came where I got sick of not getting enough attention down there so I brought it up. He insisted he didn't have a problem going down on me and he was not at all averted to oral sex... but when he did go down on me, he stayed there for maybe 5 seconds tops, and he didn't even really eat me out, he just kind of licked the area around my clittoris and my inner thighs.
I feel almost cheated, I always give him oral sex, not because he asks or anything, but because I want to show him physical affection, and I feel like I'm a lot more open and experimental in bed. I like things hot and kinky, and he's just... bland. And he'll say things about what he's going to do to me that night and I get all excited, but when the moment comes he never steps up to the plate or follows through with what he says.
I really care about this person, but I also care a lot about being sexually satisfied. What do I do?
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Registered: 12-30-2003
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 3:01pm

Hi nostalgiceyes, welcome!


      Jill

    

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Registered: 05-30-2006
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 8:53am
Go ahead and ask him if he's gay. At this point you have nothing to lose.
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Registered: 05-22-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 7:27pm

I would have a serious talk with him, ask him if he has had much experience going down on a woman and also go to the book store and find a book about sexual techniques and hand it to him. Or tell him very provocatively that you think he need a little "sexual education and that you'd love to teach him the ropes" then tell him how to pleasure you orally to start with!

If that doesn't work I would stop giving him oral or just tell him that sex is completely out of the picture until he can get his act together.

Sue the Ho
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Registered: 07-11-2007
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:25pm
If you smell fishy down there use the medication called metronidazole. Your doctor will have to call it in to the pharmacy. Sometimes the smell turns men off so just get rid of the odor.