He won't go down on me...
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He won't go down on me...
| Sat, 06-23-2007 - 10:58pm |
I started dating this guy recently...we actually dated a long time ago but it never got physical. I'm crazy about him as a person...but in bed, things really fall apart. Not only does he speed through foreplay, but he won't go down on me. I didn't say anything about it at first, thinking one day he would do it on his own, but the day came where I got sick of not getting enough attention down there so I brought it up. He insisted he didn't have a problem going down on me and he was not at all averted to oral sex... but when he did go down on me, he stayed there for maybe 5 seconds tops, and he didn't even really eat me out, he just kind of licked the area around my clittoris and my inner thighs.
I feel almost cheated, I always give him oral sex, not because he asks or anything, but because I want to show him physical affection, and I feel like I'm a lot more open and experimental in bed. I like things hot and kinky, and he's just... bland. And he'll say things about what he's going to do to me that night and I get all excited, but when the moment comes he never steps up to the plate or follows through with what he says.
I really care about this person, but I also care a lot about being sexually satisfied. What do I do?
I feel almost cheated, I always give him oral sex, not because he asks or anything, but because I want to show him physical affection, and I feel like I'm a lot more open and experimental in bed. I like things hot and kinky, and he's just... bland. And he'll say things about what he's going to do to me that night and I get all excited, but when the moment comes he never steps up to the plate or follows through with what he says.
I really care about this person, but I also care a lot about being sexually satisfied. What do I do?

Hi nostalgiceyes, welcome!
Jill
I would have a serious talk with him, ask him if he has had much experience going down on a woman and also go to the book store and find a book about sexual techniques and hand it to him. Or tell him very provocatively that you think he need a little "sexual education and that you'd love to teach him the ropes" then tell him how to pleasure you orally to start with!
If that doesn't work I would stop giving him oral or just tell him that sex is completely out of the picture until he can get his act together.