I love my fiancee but this irks me
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| Wed, 07-11-2007 - 7:00pm |
Hello, I finally decided to start posting and see what everyone says on here.
I am a 23 yr old guy and I am engaged to my girlfriend of 2+ years. We recently had a baby boy in April and now starting to get situated finally. I would say I have a very healthy sexual appetite, and every day or every other day- sexual activity is much appreciated between us (trying to keep everything light on here). She has a more toned down sexual appetite and usually is interested every few days or so, of course depending on mood and everything else.
Now ever since we have been sexual, I have always been able to orgasm/climax, no problem. She on the other hand has trouble reaching that stage (and when she says she has, it usually involves a great deal of faking essentially.) I have tried oral, anal, regular, different positions, toys such as vibrators and everything......and still nothing. I stimulate her clitoris and her body responds just fine, and then at a point she says it hurts or that is discomfortable and ruins the mood for me. I am one that believes it should be about equal enjoyment and satisfaction, and to a point I am proactive to ensure that it is. I am thinking this may have something psychological to do with it. I have asked our doctor in private about this and she sees nothing that would prevent it physically with her.
To my knowledge she hasn't been abused or had any major traumatic events happen to her (unless you call a c-section part of it) but this has been going on since the beginning. Granted this is a minor issue and should be overlooked to some degree, but it definetly irritates me that this isnt something she is able to reach.
(some of this I have added since other forums, people have said could contribute to it)
if anyone has any ideas, please respond.....
Sincerely-
In love and hopefull

Hi In love and hopefull, welcome!
Jill
she is on no drugs besides the depo since baby was born. Before she was not on any either. As far as birth control she is one that doesn't believe in birth control and so she wasn't on any (that I know of) she was just not interested in being intimate at the time she would be most fertile and whatnot....but she missed the timing once and thats how my son was conceived :).
as far as masterbation (for her) she doesn't do that, she prefers either with me or nothing. when we incorporate toys into our time, she can get to the similar point but then says it starts hurting or is discomforting. She was also a virgin when we met (as was I) and so it really is just a learning experience. She maybe one that enjoys just being with me and inside her and not really care for the climax/orgasm.
Despite the child being around and having all our attention usually, we still are talking very open about things and this helps resolve alot of stress and tension. She said that she just 'can't' do it (as far as progressing beyond that point), she would enjoy it of course but something just doesn't allow it.
any other ideas?
in love and hopefull
Hi again hon,
Jill