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| Mon, 11-26-2007 - 4:17pm |
Hi! I'm usually just a lurker around here, but recently I've been posting more often. I have a few questions, or concerns rather, and hoping someone can help me out
1) I have a year and a half left of college and after three months of unprotected sex (although I'm on birth control), I started making my bf use a condom, because I don't want to get knocked up out of wedlock and as a student. The problem is, on top of my fear of getting pregnant (which consumes my thoughts too often) and the way latex desensatizes sex, I'm not into vaginal intercouse. The only way I've been able to have an orgasm through sex has been anal (because he plays with my clitoris). But when we have vaginal sex, when he has a condom on, I'm not into the feeling at all. That sucks! I'm realizing that our relationship is not soley based on a sex, which makes me happy because he's a keeper, but I still want to look forward to sex. When him and I were having unprotected sex, I thought about sex all the time and craved sex. I loved sex!!!! I miss that! How dissappointing. Having a dissappointing sex life sucks. Thoughts? Advice? Has anyone else had this problem?
2) On top of me not enjoying him using a condom, he now is getting the impression that he is not good in bed. But it's not that! It's that he's using a condom... but we both finally agreed that using a condom is the best thing for us. When him and I first started talking, he was very proud that he was good in bed. No matter what I say, he still feels that way. I don't want him to think that. What can I do/say (maybe even in bed) to make him know that I enjoy sex with him.
3) I also have noticed, maybe it's me being paranoid, that I continally have discomfort down there by my hole (sorry for being graphic). I've checked and everything looks fine. But I've had a yeast infection before, but I consistently have a slight discomfort (nothing too extreme like a yeast infection). I also noticed that during various times of the month, what seems like my ovaries are in slight discomfort. Could something be wrong with me? Are these normal feelings?
Thanks for your support! I look forward to anwers.

Hi silverstars05 welcome!
Jill
thank you jill. i really appreciate your response. i feel better already.
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Hi again silverstars05,
Jill