BV & the arguments that ruin sex

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Registered: 09-06-2007
BV & the arguments that ruin sex
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Thu, 01-03-2008 - 9:16am

I hope someone can help. I am so frustrated and confused. I have been dating a man for a few months and we've had sex twice. Both times I had BV afterward. I hate to admit it, but we did not use a condom either time. He claims he's allergic to latex. I have to admit that I'm not very sexually experienced, so I've just learned about non-latex condoms and will be purchasing some today.


At any rate, he keeps telling me that I have alot of pubic hair, which is causing my infections, in addition to the fact that I hadn't had intercourse and his foreign substances, etc. He keeps telling me I need to shave my pubic hair, which I'm worried will cause a whole other issue of discomfort for me. Ultimately, I think he just wants to keep having sex with no condom. One of the reasons sex is so infrequent is because I don't want to do it without a condom. This is really causing me (and him) a lot of frustration because I really can't say that I enjoy sex if I'm going to be itchy and smelly afterward. This sucks! Can someone provide some guidance on:


1) Shaving pubic hair will reduce chances for infection (I've researched it online and I can't find anything that says that's true)


2) Getting this guy to use a condom so that I can find out if my BV is a result of my body or his or both


3) Increasing the frequency of sex will cause the infections to stop (Note: another one of his arguments for us having sex)

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 10:52am

How about if I just smack him upside his head for you!


1) Shaving pubic hair is a vanity issue.

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:14am

Thanks so much for responding to me. I've been doing a lot of research today...not to refute his arguments, but so that I'll be more educated. It all comes down to what you said. It should be enjoyable for both of us, but its not for me because I'm constantly worried about what I'll have to deal with afterward and I just don't want to do it. So either we'll have to find a solution that works for both of us or we'll have to be done with this relationship.


Thanks for your advice though and you hit the nail on the head...it sounds and feels like a whole lot of bull manure.