Losing your virginity.

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Losing your virginity.
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Mon, 01-14-2008 - 10:50am

Can you lose your virginity through anal sex? Can you lose it through vaginal intercourse? Can a person who has had anal sex,but not vaginal intercourse be considered a vaginal virgin?

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 7:43pm

Technically, it's still sex -- it's just that the hyman hasn't been broken.

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Registered: 04-01-2006
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 9:13pm

I respectfully disagree with you. In my opinion, sexual intercourse is with the penis and the vagina. Not with any other appendage or orifice. So technically you can have lots of sex (oral, anal, etc.) and remain a virgin. However, if you're trying to remain a virgin because you want to save yourself for your future spouse, in my opinion (once again) partaking in any sex is considered NOT saving yourself for your future spouse. Why would somebody want to remain a virgin on a technicality? If you're saving yourself, why wouldn't you want to do it for real, instead of looking for loopholes?

However, the ultimate question for me is, why would you want to save yourself anyway? The last thing I'd want to marry is a virgin who has no idea what he's doing.

Mel

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 01-15-2008 - 7:58am
That's why I went to Websters to look up the definition of a virgin.

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Wed, 02-06-2008 - 11:49am

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 10:02pm

Big difference between sexual intercourse and losing your virginity.


Traditionally, intercourse has been viewed as the natural endpoint of all sexual contact between a man and a woman, and is commonly confined to this definition today. The meaning of the term, however, has been broadened in recent years, and now labels at least three different sex acts. These three types of intercourse are: vaginal intercourse, involving vaginal penetration by the penis; oral intercourse, involving oral caress of the sex organs (male or female); and anal intercourse, involving insertion of the male's penis into his partner's anus.


Virginity is the state of being a virgin. Virgin historically signified a young woman characterized by absence of sexual experience.

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Registered: 09-12-2007
Sun, 05-04-2008 - 1:50pm

Personally, I think sex is sex. If you are engaging in a sexual act with another person for pleasure, it counts as intercourse. I always found it rather silly to see the ministers' children who wanted to remain chaste from "pleasures of the flesh" enjoying carnal pleasure courtesy or someone's mouth or rectum. But that's just me.


I'd like to add one more thing: loss of virginity results from CONSENSUAL sex, in my opinion. You have to have sex with the other person. If they have sex with you, against your wishes, it doesn't count.

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Sun, 05-04-2008 - 2:01pm
No, because then it's called rape...and that's not acceptable, even in a marriage and monogamous relationship.

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Wed, 05-28-2008 - 8:38am
I see what you mean. However, My bf has given me oral and I still consider us both virgins. Society means penetration when they refer to sex. If you want to look at it from a religious perspective then yes oral is loss of innocence. I realize everyone has their own defintion. I see it as a momentous question. The type of question you ask and you get various opinions.