No Sex

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Registered: 10-04-2000
No Sex
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Tue, 02-19-2008 - 10:52am
I am not sure why this is. My husband and i are going on our 4 year wedding anniversary and have been together 12 years. I am not sure why i lost my libido. He wants sex all the time and most times i feel too tired to get motivated, i do work two jobs but i am not always sure that is my reason. I do still find him very attractive but i think it has lost it luster. He says he does no longer know how to arrouse me and i can honestly say i am not sure either which i guess it pretty pathetic. When we were dating it was like a forbiden thing and we did not live together so sex was definitely daily or at least every other day. Since we have been married it is more like twice a month. I do get horney once and a while but i would not say daily like he does. He has brought it up that that is the only element of our marriage that he is unhappy with. I am not sure if there is a way to motivate myself(i do not want to take pills). Not sure if it is the birth control doing it or what. I am afraid of losing my marriage over this so if anyone has any suggestions, i am open to them, thanks for listening.:(
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Registered: 03-24-2003
In reply to: pookieouchi
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 1:01am

First thing to do is check with your doctor to ensure that there are no underlying causes to a drop in libido.

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