PLEASE help my lack of sexual desire
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| Tue, 03-04-2008 - 1:56am |
Please, please help me. I am stuck in a miserable job that causes me huge stress on a lot of different fronts, from feeling inadequate in my job and undeserving of anything more, to long, exhausting hours.
I have an amazing, wonderful boyfriend whom I adore. I used to burn with sexual desire, so much so that I was never satisfied and would often wake in the night to masterbate or have sex. I went on the Nuvaring because condoms were very uncomfortable for me. Now, however, I have almost no interest in sex and rarely initiate it, have a hard time getting wet enough to keep going without help from artificial lubrication, and struggle to reach orgasm, if i get there at all.
None of this was a problem before I got this job or went on the ring, both of which events occurred around the same time, so I don't know which is the cause for my troubles. I am looking for a new position and plan on talking about changing BC this weekend with my gynecologist, but I wonder if anyone out there can offer me some help from someone who has battled this problem and won, and/or some advice on which new BC might help relieve these problems.
This combination of problems is making me miserable! I couldn't sleep tonight and wound up crying, so I decided to reach out to you. Please help me!

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Stress will always take its' toll on your sexual health.
I wish I had an answer for you, but I'm sitting here in tears WITH you. I feel just about the same! I enjoy my job, but we're in a slow time of year so I sit there most of the day reading the news online and feel like I contribute NOTHING to society. I constantly think about my body and how I pray I was 10 lbs lighter and much more tone, it brings me down all the time. I have the most amazing husband but my lack of self-confidence and self-worth aren't making me seem that sexy to him anymore. So neither one of us tries anymore in the bedroom. I just went on the nuvaring two months ago after being on the same pill for 10 years, so I'm not sure if that is affecting my sexual desire.
Hang in there and hopefully things get better.
You aren't the only one!!!!!!
Huge hugs to you, too!
Have you thought of the mini-pill?
I went to my gynecologist yesterday to discuss this. She said that the Nuvaring has the lowest rate of libido impact of all hormonal contraceptives, and that while I might possibly be one of the few who has a chemical-related problem, she really felt that the problem was stress.
Her prescription was to look for a new job and and to have my "partner wine and dine" me.
Is getting a new job going to be less stressful than dealing with the one you already have?
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