cant get aroused dont know i ever have?
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| Fri, 05-23-2008 - 6:53am |
ok i am having all sorts of problems but looking at things from a stages point of view, i dont even know if i have ever been aroused or even what that is? during sex even after hubby and i spend ages on foreply i dont feel any differently than say now typing this out, i could get up at any point in time and walk away and carry on with life, it really wouldnt both me at all, i have heard that during arousal you feel a warmth and tingling sensation? no me, i dont feel anything at all, even during sex with him its purely the in and out of what hes doing till he orgasms and then thats it,
we have tried using vibs and toys etc but i can hardly even feel those, i have seen my doctor who being honest couldnt careless, and just passed me over to a sex therapist without even bothing to run some tests or even look to see if everything was ok, the therapy never worked due to her having us do sensate focus which i hated with a passion. we gave up after 6 months of that, due to us reporting back to her every week and her telling us "more of the same"
im really at a loss what to do, we have been married 25 yrs now and its always been this way, to be honest i didnt know that i was meant to have any other feelings/sensations etc etc until 4 yrs back when all this became a problem for us.
if anyone can help then i would be very grateful.

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It sounds like it could be more mental than physical.
Over 40 & Loving It,
OK.
I can't believe no-one has asked you this..
Have you ever stimulated yourself to orgasm?
ok til 4 yrs back i didnt even know that i was meant to orgasm i thought it was for men only!! so ok yes i have tried that by hand myself and him and we have done it for hrs at a time and i fal asleep, its boring!!! i dont feel anything at all from it and cant even get wet, even with the vibs, so no i have never in my life had a single orgasm, but thats the end thing we are aiming for but til i know if im aroused or not then whats the point of pushing further?
as for feeling any warm tingly feelings then no i dont have any of them at all.
Edited 5/29/2008 2:32 am ET by waitingforever2008
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