Do you ever feel like you belong to a...

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
Do you ever feel like you belong to a...
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 11:21am

very exclusive "club." And one that you wish you didn't. The day my Mom died, my world was changed profoundly. Never mind that the Alzheimers had taken her from us a long time before. No one who had not lost their mom could really know how I felt. Then when Geri died, my world was rocked. She was 47. I am 44. It doesn't matter that she was ill, and had been for a long time. It doesn't matter that she had 3 chronic. potentially fatal conditions. She was my sister, and now she is gone. When I was still drinking, she let me live with her and then loved me enough to kick me out of her house, which eventually led to me getting sober. When she became ill, she lived with us. Now she is gone. Another club.

I am having a hard time giving support to those of you who have lost fathers or spouses. My dad is 81. He has had 3 heart attacks and 3 open heart surgeries. I know I won't always have him. I fear losing my spouse.

Anyway. If you got this far, thank you


iVillage Member
Registered: 01-26-2004
Wed, 07-13-2005 - 12:30pm

Thank you, Beth, for your honesty.