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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 7:22pm

My family is the closest extended family I know. We all know each others' business (which can be a pain sometimes LOL). My Dad had 7 siblings, 2 of whom are gone now. He is the oldest. His oldest sister, Aunt L, was one of my Mom's closest friends. Her husband, Uncle S. has always been my favorite uncle. Their family is quite large (8 kids, all but 1 married, with children) and they lived with us for 6 months when I was young....yeah...4 adults, 10 kids, a toddler and an infant in a 4 bedroom, one bathroom house).


Uncle S. is in the hospital. He and the family will have to make the decision  as to whether he will have a longer life, with a diminished quality of life, or a short time left.  He did not want to have chemo the last time he had a recurrance of his cancer, and my Dad bullied him into it. I doubt he will choose to fight.


I can't begin to tell you how much I do not want to watch another loved one suffer and die. I can't begin to tell you how much I cannot handle this. I can't begin to tell you how grateful I am that all of you are here.


If I take time responding to your posts, or if my posts sound a bit "off" please forgive me. Don't hesitate to ask me what I meant...I probably wasn't thinking well when I responded.


Thanks for understanding.


 


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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 7:51pm

(((((((((((((((BETH)))))))))))))))


My heart aches for you.

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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 9:04pm

Oh Beth, I know what you mean when you say you can't handle anymore... when my friend and my aunt died within 18 months of each other, I felt the exact same way. It takes a toll on us, especially we sensitive ones....*sigh*

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Annie

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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 9:13pm
((((Beth))) You and your family are

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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 10:30pm

Annie, Mary and Barb....thank you.


My cousin Mary called a little while ago. She was the cousin who took Geri to all her DRs appointments, and the cousin, who, with my other sister and I, made the decision to terminate Geri's ventilator. No word yet on the biopsies. Maybe tomorrow. The DR wants to do surgery tomorrow, remove the blockage and put in the "waste bag" (as my Aunt D calls hers). Uncle S, being pig headed, told the DR "No". Mary and Aunt L said "Yes".


Then my Dad walked into the hospital room. He asked what was going on, asked if the DR had consent forms, handed them and a pen to my uncle and said "Sign".


He signed.


So surgery is tomorrow. Most of my cousins will attend their BIL's mother's funeral and then head up to the hospital. I brought over some scones and left them at the house for the ravashing hordes.


I am trying to tell myself that if the surgeon weren't at least cautiously optimistic about the outcome of the biopsy he would wait to do surgery.


Thanks again for being here.

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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 11:13pm

(((((((((((((BETH))))))))))))))

What is the first rule of this board young lady???? NO APOLOGIES!!!!!! I distinctly remember you saying something on the order of DITTO when I wrote back to Barb.

Sweetheart, you and your wonderful family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I know you have alot to handle and it seems like just one more straw will break the donkey's back. Then there is you...you will handle it because of who you are. If you lose it a little, so what you are entitled.

We love you and care about you and we all will be there for you. Take care of yourself also sweetie. Please keep us updated ok?

Love ya
Gail
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Thu, 11-30-2006 - 11:49pm

((((Beth))))

I'm sorry that you and your family have to deal with another stressful and scary moment in your lives. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers... and I wish the best for your uncle during his surgery.

You have been such a sweet and caring friend with only kind words to share with me. I hope that you continue to find that same kind of support from us all here. We all care for you very much and hate to hear you are hurting.

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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 1:02am
Oh Barb I am so sorry for you! You have gone through so much with your family.
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 7:40pm
I'm so glad you have the weekend off to be with your dear family to strengthen and comfort one another.
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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 7:48pm

Hi Barb


I am a tad sick today...head cold. DH came home early, but I ended up with my cousin's three girls for a couple of hours so she could see her Dad.


The surgery went well, a lot of scar tissue, so it was longer than expected. Biopsies aren't done yet, no results then until


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Fri, 12-01-2006 - 10:26pm
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