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| Mon, 12-04-2006 - 3:48pm |
my name is Jane and 19 years ago this January 19th I was driving my twin sons age 6 to kindergarden when we were broadsiided by a bus. My son Jeffrey took the hit he was sitting behind me. Fortunately my other son Greg was unhurt. I'm a medical prfessional so I did cpr on Jeff till help came but he had suffered a severe head trauma. We took him off life support the next morning. the 1st year after the accident was a blurr but slowly life started to reture to normal or some resemblance of it. I'm writing because my son's birthday just passed and I always get a little down then. My other son lives over 1000 miles from us now and is doing well. I used to have to be so up beat when Greg was young but now he's 25 and dosn't wan't to spend as much time with us. I can grieve as much as I want. The other bad time for me is the anniversary of Jeffrey's death. When that time rolles around it's as if it happened yesterday. I've been through tons of counselling but after all these years I don't feel there is any harm in feeling depressed for a few days each year. I still need to talk about it some times.

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(((((((Sweetie))))))
You came to a special place that help special people. We are all grieving in our own way and there is nothing wrong with that. I still miss my grandma and grandpa and it has been 30 some years. I am so very sorry for your loss. You are doing what is normal. To lose a child or a loved one never leaves us, we just cope with the loss better as time goes on. Know that the people that you will hear from understand and care. You can come here and vent whenever you want. You never have to apologize for anything.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers and lots of hugs are being sent your way.
Love ya
Gail
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Although it was years ago, I can understand why the pain of losing a child would still be with you. He was your son and the pain of losing a child must be unbearable. He is with you all day, everyday, and don't feel weird about mourning his birth or death day. It's understandable. I hope you use this board to talk about your son, and the support that you will receive from this wonderful group of women offers you some kind of solice as his birthday and death day anniversarys come and pass. Post as often as you like, I'd love to hear more about him.
Hello, Jane.
(((((Jane))))), what a terrible loss.
Welcome!
I am pleased you found our board!
Thank you for sharing your boys with us.
What do you do to honor Jeff's life? I know that I will be going to the animal shelters with food and cleaning supplies to donate in my sister's name this weekend.
I will pray that Greg continues to move forward and that he comes to terms with being the surviving twin.
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I imagine as time goes on certain times, places, events will always bring the emotions of the loss of our loved ones back to us. But as you so wisely said, there is nothing wrong with allowing yourself to just go ahead and feel the feelings you're feeling. In fact, that is the very healthy thing to do.
It must be so difficult to lose a child. I can not even begin to imagine. And it had an expectedly overwhelming effect on your other son. But it seems he has worked through it. You're a very strong family to have gotten through all that you have.
Jeff's birthday, the day of his death & the holidays are all so close and these are all very difficult times, I think, for those who are missing loved ones so greatly.
Like someone else said, although I did not lose a child, I hope I can be where you are some day.
Karen
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