new and really need someone to talk to

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Registered: 07-31-2006
new and really need someone to talk to
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Fri, 02-09-2007 - 6:42pm

HI everyone,
I don't think I've ever posted on this board but I really need to talk to someone who might understand what I'm going through right now.

Here's my story;
One week ago yesterday I learned that I was having my 4th miscarriage.
I am totally shocked and confused and quite honestly don't know how I should feel.
Now I am a seemingly perfectly healthy 26 year old and all of the preliminary tests are showing nothing wrong so these m/c's are unexplainable.

The thing that is frustrating is that everyone in my life keeps telling me "well so-and-so had (insert number here) miscarriages before they had a baby and you will be fine. ARGH!!!

Someone please tell me that I'm not losing my mind and that somehow I'll get throught this, because right now it's not looking so good.
Thanks for letting me vent

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Registered: 06-25-2005
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 10:31pm

I know that there is nothing that anyone can say to make your pain go away. Please know that I am very sorry for your loss. I have a friend who has had 2 miscarriages. Every time someone told her "maybe next time" I could see the frustration and desperation in her eyes. I am sorry that you are going through this.

Angela

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 3:28pm

I want to send you my deepest condolences on all of your losses. I am so very sorry this is happening to you. I personally have never had a miscarriage so I can only imagine what you are going through.

I know that some people are writing to you and perhaps saying things that are not comforting to you at this time. I think it is only because they really do not know what to say , and they so much want to try to ease your pain.

I could only say at this time, again I am so sorry , and know that we are all here for you. You are definitely not loosing your mind. You are in pain, hurting and confused to why this is happening. Have you discussed this with your doctor?

Please feel free to post here at any time and also please let me know how you are doing. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

((((((hugs)))))) Miriam

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Registered: 07-21-1998
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 6:52pm

Once just happens. 4 times, you should be talking to specialists and looking for a cause. It's pretty clueless of people to say things like that to you.

I can't promise you that you'll bear a baby, but you WILL get through this one way or another.

Cthulu Crochet

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Registered: 12-02-2005
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 7:26pm
my sympathies. I have only had one miscarriage, but my prayers will be with you. I hope it works out for you
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Registered: 01-26-2004
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 9:04pm
I want to welcome you to our board, (((((Mom_tazzy))))).
AcornLeaves
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Registered: 12-02-2005
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 2:24pm
I posted yesterday, but today I was sitting at the docs talking about my daughters test results and condition and on the way home I thought of your post. My daughter has polysystic ovary syndrome. I dont know what type of blood work they have done on you, but the doc told me today, and I researched this when we started going throuhg this with her, but anyway POS will cause a woman to miscarry numerous times if she is at all sucessful in having a live birth. Her dhea in her blood is what brought up the red flag. It was 10 times the normal. SO like I said, I dont know if the doc has done anything like that for you, or if it helps but I hurried up and looked for your post again to let you know. god bless

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