Loosing a baby
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| Fri, 02-09-2007 - 11:23pm |
On Wendesday my husband & I went to get a routine sonogram. We we're so excited about having our first baby and we'd decided to tell our families when we got home. We were almost through the first trimester and everything had been going well. Sadly we were told that the heart had stoped beating. I was in shock I didn't know what I was supposed to be feeling. We spent yesterday together & talked more frankly about how we were feeling than I think we have since our wedding night.
I know in a few months we will probably be pregnant again and hopefully that time everything will go fine. That doesn't make me feel better though. I wanted this baby. I loved it. I still do. And I feel guilty, guilty for wanting another baby, guilty for not being able to comfort my husband, guilty incase it was somehow my fault.
I've lost loved ones before & it is different every time but this has more regret than I've ever felt before. I keep thinkging about all the things that will never be.

(((((Honey))))), I can't begin to express my sadness at your loss.
(((((Sweetheart))))
I am so very sorry for what your going through along with your dh. I lost a baby also, many many years ago, but it still hurts when it happens. You and your dh are so very lucky to have each other. Neither one of you need to feel guilty about anything. We NEVER want to have to go through this, but sadly we do. We all here care about you and your feelings. Please keep posting if your up to it so we know how your doing.
I can safely say that when you hold that precious bundle of joy in your arms, that little bundle will be one of the luckiest bundles around. Your family sounds wonderful, close and loving.
Love ya
Gail
xoxoxoxoxoxo
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Rochelle
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Hello, Rochelle, and welcome to our board.
I am so sorry for you and your husband's loss. It is very sad to loose any loved one, especially when you miscarry. Both you and your husband are very lucky to have each other.
Somtimes when we go through difficult times, is when your relationship becomes closer than ever. You and your husband have absoultely nothing to feel guilty about. You did nothing to miscarry this baby. It hurts and it is very sad. Unfortuantely through saddness somtimes brings people closer together then they ever were. You and your husband found that closeness and found it in each other the honesty that husbands and wives should have between each other.
You will have another baby and this little one will be the luckiest baby to have been born into such a loving and caring home, iwth a mommy and daddy who have repect and love for each other. you will bring out the best in this future child's life.
I want to wish you both good luck and please let me know how you are doing. Feel free to post here anytime.
(((((hugs))))) Miriam