how could she?!?! (vent)

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Registered: 07-31-2006
how could she?!?! (vent)
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Thu, 03-01-2007 - 1:02pm

Ok I seriously need to vent about one of the stupidest most inconsiderate people I have encountered in a loooooong time!

So there's this person we used to be friends with and she told me the other day that she's pregnant.
I swear I would be happy for her if she hadn't had the nerve to then tell ME that her pregnancy was an accident and she's not sure if she wants to keep the baby AND she's not sure who the father is!!!! (this is a married woman)

I don't know whether to hate her or feel sorry for her that she cheated on her husband so many times that she doesnt know who the father of her baby is. And seriously, she knows that I just had my 4th m/c and she still had the gall to rub it in my face that OOPS she got pg!!!

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 1:14pm

(((((Honey))))), I'm so sorry that this woman was so thoughtless and inconsiderate.

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 02-15-2007
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 2:10pm

Is this someone whom you can avoid at all costs? The reason I am asking is because 1st you don't need to surround yourself with people who has such low morals and values PLUS the fact that she is so ignorant to have thrown it all into your face when you need it the least.

I hope you can find a good place today with all of this. She doesn't deserve your friendship.

Kiki

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Registered: 07-31-2006
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 3:14pm

Ty ladies for letting me vent,I honestly don't know what I would do without this board.

This is a person I have made an effort to not have contact with and I told her that I don't agree with her lifestyle and would appreciate it if she didn't bring it around me and she respected that, I hadn't heard anything from her until this incident and I honesly don't know what posessed her to contact me about that of all things!!

Hopefully she got the message and I won't hear from her anymore.

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 3:17pm

If she doesn't get the hint you can surely tell her with a bit more intensity how you feel about what she brings to the relationship. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Kiki

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Sat, 03-03-2007 - 7:31pm

I am so sorry that this womem was so inconsiderate of your feelings. This women sounds like she is in a dark place herself and is not stopping to think what she is saying or and who she is saying it to.

It is too bad that she couldn't take a few minutes and step back and realize that what she was saying was hurting you. As far as hating her, well......that is a strong word, and lets face it sweetie, she wasn't cheating on you, but her husband. I definitely don't blame you for being upset and angry that she was not thoughtful enough to think before she spoke to you. Sometimes people say things without stopping to think that maybe what they are saying can hurt the other person.

You sound like a good person with a big heart,loving, caring and I believe that if she would of just told you that she was pregnant, you would of been so thrilled for her. It's to bad that this women didn't realize what a wonderful and valuable friend she had in you.

Miriam

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Registered: 06-14-2006
Mon, 03-12-2007 - 4:50pm

Isn't it nice to know that there are people who make you feel better about yourself?!? *rolling eyes* There are people so clueless to others pain that you almost feel sorry for them.

I'm sorry she doesn't seem to get it. I'm really glad, though, that you used the term "former friend." You did what you needed to stay the great person I'm sure you are. It's so hard to break those ties, but it can feel so liberating to do it. I hope you feel liberated and joyful knowing you have done the best thing for you and your family.

Do a dance in your kitchen and celebrate! :)