Lost my husband...love of my life.

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Lost my husband...love of my life.
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 12:47pm

I recently lost my husband..he was only 37 years old. We have 3 children, 2 daughters and a son..is the hardest most difficult time of my life. My children right now are what's holding me together but I should be the one holding them and I can't seem to get my head on straight....Can't talk any more..

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Registered: 02-15-2007
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 2:09pm

Welcome to the board. Can you please take a second and share with us your story? I send my condolences to you and your children for your loss.

Kiki

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 2:31pm

(((((((Sweetheart))))))

I am so very sorry for your loss. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your children.

Sweetie, it is ok. You can come here anytime you want. You can vent, cry, yell or scream. We will all be here for you.....When your ready. If you are up to it, maybe youcould start a journal of your feelings, or things that happened that day. What made you laugh, smile or even cry. Sometimes this helps. You might also want to think about grief counseling. If your not ready, then your not. We all have our own timetable and that is perfectly normal.

Know that this board is full of wonderful caring ladies that will all be here for you. There are a million and one cyber hugs being sent your way for you and your little ones.

Please let us know how your doing. we do care.

Love ya
Gail
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Registered: 01-26-2004
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 2:56pm

Welcome, (((((Alxcarr37))))).

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 11-17-2006
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 5:37pm

(((hugs)))

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I am sending you and your family many prayers and thoughts.

I hope you are able to use this board to talk about your husband and any thing that is on your mind. I loss my beloved boyfriend in November and talking about him has been especailly beneficial to me.

I know there are a million and one things running through your mind right now... but to take a moment and just breathe deeply and try to concentrate on just a few of those thoughts, whether on paper or just quietly to yourself, may be really helpful to slowly organize how your feeling.

Hug your little ones tight...

Offering you support during this hectic time.

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Registered: 07-18-2006
Thu, 03-15-2007 - 6:50pm

I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband. I hope you'll stick around, this board seems like a wonderful place!

Angie

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 1:19am

I am so sorry about your husband!

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Registered: 09-11-2004
Fri, 03-16-2007 - 6:23pm

((((((ALXCARR37))))))


Welcome and know that we understand

Beth
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Fri, 03-23-2007 - 4:57pm
My husband and I baptized a niece's daughter on a Saturday and on Sunday morning, I woke up early to watch all my tvo'd Dr Phil shows. My son, age 10, had actually slept with us because his sisters had spent the night at my niece's home and he did not like to sleep in the upstairs rooms alone, woke up also and went to watch tv with me in the living room. About 10 minutes later, I heard a funny kind of snore from my husband, so I went to check on him..he was rolled over on the side of the bed almost falling off when I rolled him over, he was already I guess over whatever kind of seizure he had..his face was purple, his eyes rolled over and he had his tongue clenched between his teeth. I unclenched his tongue and tried to give him CPR while trying to calm my son and call 911. I had to call twice before they got there and he was never revived. It was the most difficult experience of my life, mainly because he was the love of my life and secondly, because his son literally watched him die. I have not slept but for maybe 2 or 3 hrs a night..I cannot take sleeping pills because I'm now afraid that I won't hear my children. Because he was healthy and no previous medical history, there was an autopsy ordered and we have not received the results which means I'm unable to get any of his insurance in order nor cr card bills or accounts settled. The question my children ask me constantly is why? what happened? and I don't have the answers. So most of my night I take to replaying everything and trying to figure out if maybe I could have done something different.
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Registered: 09-13-2005
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 10:01pm

I would like to take this time to send you and your children my deepest condolences on the loss of your dear husband. He was so very young!!

You have definitely come to the right place where you will find such loving, caring, and supportive women on this board. When you are feeling up to it, perhaps you can sit down and write in a journal. Writing can be very theraputic. I wrote a letter to my late mom and just writing to her and telling her how and what I felt and the things that were going on since she passed away, was very helpful and calming to me.

Just know that you are not alone. Whenever you need a soft place to fall, we are all here for you. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your children.

Sending you lots of ((((((((((cyber hugs,)))))))))))

Miriam

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Sat, 03-24-2007 - 9:04pm
Hi alxcarr37,
I can say for certain I know how you feel, I lost my husband of 25 years 1 year ago 03/28
He had surgery 03/13, never recovered and died. I was devasted and angry unlike you my children are grown but is very hard for children even in their twenties to accept the fact that Dad isn't here any more. My husband had just turned 51 when he passed.
From my experiences I can tell you that there will be days when you feel ok, better than most, and you start to think ok I'm moving foward, than just out of the blue it hits you again an overwhelming sadness takes over and all you want to do is cry, scream, you name it.
Its problably not a good idea for me to talk to you right now as this month has been very hard for me, because of the upcoming anniversay so I've been very emotional, I try not to, but it happens.In the beginning I just told everyone who would listen that my husband had just died, it was almost as if I was looking for pitty, with time I've been able to speak to people and not mention his untimely death. I guess what I'm trying to say is even in your darkest moments please just remember this too will pass and God has a plan for us and that is why we are alone now, I see it as a time for me to grow as a person, a time for me to live with me. When you spouse dies you have to reinvent yourself you are no longer so and sos wife now you are you, and for me this has been very hard to do.
All I can say is My prayers and toughts are with you and your children keep the faith.
God works in misterious ways

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