Lost my husband...love of my life.

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Lost my husband...love of my life.
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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 12:47pm

I recently lost my husband..he was only 37 years old. We have 3 children, 2 daughters and a son..is the hardest most difficult time of my life. My children right now are what's holding me together but I should be the one holding them and I can't seem to get my head on straight....Can't talk any more..

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Registered: 03-24-2007
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 9:36pm

How do you ever get over the reaccuring thought that may be you could have done something different? I thought at the time I was doing everything right, but for a year now all I think about is everything else I wish I could have done.

I wish I could just be satisfied with the decisions I made. Does it ever go away? Although I know that no matter what desicions I made back than I would always qustion myself, can anyone tell me if this is ever going to go away? mv55

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Registered: 01-26-2004
Sat, 03-24-2007 - 10:23pm

Honey, my prayers go out to you at this terrible and frightening time.

AcornLeaves
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Sun, 03-25-2007 - 7:30am

I wondered for about a year if


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Registered: 06-18-2004
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 12:19am

My dh died suddenly from a brain aneurysm 12/24/2005 and felt for a long time that maybe I should have pushed him more to see a doctor more often, looked for more symptoms ect., and can see the signs now.

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Registered: 09-23-2004
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 2:03am

Hugs and love for you and your family.

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Registered: 03-27-2007
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 8:32am
I am all to familiar with how you feel. Last summer I lost my husband and had to pull together for our 3yr and 8yr. I don't know how I did it but soon it will be a year. NOt a day goes by though that I don't shed a tear for him.
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Registered: 01-26-2004
Tue, 03-27-2007 - 4:30pm

Hi, (((((Sammydutchak)))))!

AcornLeaves
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 12:18pm

Oh, my heart goes out to you. Of course you did all you could do but we always ask ourselves if we did. It's just that we look for any answers to our questions of "why?" when our loved one is ripped from our life with no forwarning. Unfortunately part of that is questioning ourselves & what we did.

My husband died suddenly a few months ago but my child is grown. I can't imagine having small children to take care of while going through all this. I have dogs & it is all I can do to keep it together. Take whatever help you can get, make your life as easy as you can - I know nothing seems easy now - at least so you'll experience the least amount of stress as you can.

Be good to yourself. And get sleep when you can. I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers go our to you & your family.

Karen

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Registered: 03-15-2007
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 2:57pm
Thank you all for your kind words and prayers. It has been a difficult month but I'm trying to get our lives back to a "normal" routine. We are of the Catholic faith and my children are alter servers and have gone back to their meetings and serving our church. My husband had been in the automobile business for 20 years. He was the service manager of the Nissan dealership locally and was very charismatic; his customers actually followed him from the previous Toyota dealership he had been in and bought Nissans so he would take care of their service. He was very religious and close to his younger brother. He was a Nascar enthusiast (ultimate Jeff Gordon fan) and every Sunday after church, we would watch the Nascar races at our house or the house of his best friend. He was also a great Green Bay Packer (note we are in Dallas Cowboy country) and his best friend (born in Wisconsin) is a Dallas Cowboy fan. He actually fulfilled some of his greatest wishes which was to attend a game at Packer stadium (Packers vs. Cowboys) and he went to Talladega raceway in addition to every race at Texas Speedway since it opened. As you can tell I pretty much miss everything about him and could actually go on and on about him. I got my children two dogs (a beagle/daschund mix and now a miniature terrier of some mix) and they very quickly have gotten themselves attached to them. Thank you for letting me post and remember all the good things he was.
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Registered: 10-29-2004
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 4:39pm
I am so sorry for your loss. Each day I wonder why we have to go through these tragedy's and I have no answer. My prayers are with you and your family. And I really hope with time you can apreciate the love and life you and your husband shared and look to the future with courage. But I know right now you are far from that. My father is passing away and there are no words for the saddness I feel. Take the time you need to be sad. With the love of your children you will get through this.

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